Life Coaching with Sonal

Empowering those who are asking for what they want, those who want to live their dreams, those who believe deep within that life is supposed to be good – and that is you.

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Joy all the way

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“Joy is not the result of getting what you want. It is the way to get what you want. In the deepest sense, joy is what you want.”

– Alan Cohen

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The destination (or manifestation of the specific desire that you have) is important but it’s the fun of the ride that you really want. When the destination becomes more important than the journey to it, the fun reduces. If it was just the destination that you wanted, once you would have reached there, you would not want anything else but you savor your destination for some time and then, you again have another destination (another desire) that you want (and another ride that you start). The journey is eternal. There will always be more and once you know that, you can feel ease with this eternalness and thereby, easily allow more feel-good moments while on the way to what you want. Makes the journey easier and also allows what you want to manifest in its full glory.

What you want is because you believe you will feel better in the having of it – whether it is money, a more loving relationship, health, starting a business, a promotion at work, a bigger car etc. It is that feeling that you are targeting through the specific desire that you have. Why save all the joy only for the last part i.e. when it manifests in your physical reality when you can allow joy not only in the manifestation but also on the way to it? Why limit the joy in your life when you can so easily feel it in the here and now even if what you want hasn’t manifested? You can do so in many ways – meditation, a walk next to nature, indulging in a hobby, speaking with a trustworthy and supportive friend, napping (yes 🙂 ), a warm relaxing bath, a soothing massage, daily lists of appreciation about topics which are easy for you to appreciate, feeling affirmations and visualizations (general or specific, depending on your readiness)…. – depending on the resonance you feel, you can choose one or more than one way out of these (or ways similar to these, ways which make it easy for you to feel better, to feel ease, to have a spring in your step, a song in your heart) to allow yourself to feel positive emotions on a daily basis.

You are pure positive energy. That is why you love feeling positive emotions (of course, moments of negative emotion have value as they facilitate growth and expansion beyond what you have been before but since they are painful, you would want to reduce them and increase the moments in which you are feeling joy, appreciation, love, worthy, free, empowered and other positive emotions…you would want to tip the balance towards positive emotions) and when you realize that you can allow more and more feel-good moments on a daily basis, you may want to consider it. You have the ability to feel positive emotions predominantly and consistently and when you show yourself that you can do so, no matter what – you reconnect to your freedom. As you practice allowing feel-good moments throughout the day everyday in ways which are easy for you, ways which resonate with you depending on where you are – you develop vibrational muscle. It is a practice even for people who feel ecstasy on a rather regular basis. Yes, it gets easier as you go along but it is still a practice (a choice) on a moment to moment basis.

As it gets easier for you, you become good at allowing more and more joyful moments on a daily basis and thereby, you allow the law of attraction to match you up with more life experiences which are in the same or similar frequency i.e. which make you even more joy. The better it gets, the better it gets. You start living life from a place of strength, just the way you intended to live when you decided to come in this time-space-reality.

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Focusing on what you desire rather than the problem which inspired your desire has value

 

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“It’s not necessary for you to exacerbate your contrast with struggle in order to get it into a higher place. It is not necessary to suffer in order to give birth to desire. But when you have suffered and you have given birth to a desire, so what? You’ve got a desire. Turn your attention to the desire. Think about where you’re going and never mind where you’ve been. Don’t spend any more time justifying any of that stuff.”

– Abraham- Hicks

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A suggestion which can help in feeling the relief you so much want to feel when in a place of negative emotion is to distract yourself to any topic which is easy for you to appreciate. As you do so, moment by moment you move closer to what you love feeling – ease, joy, love, free and worthy.

You may ask – “why should I do this? I am so justified in feeling the negative emotion that I am feeling.” Yes, you are right in feeling what you are feeling. If you tell ten people around you why you are upset or angry or any other negative emotion that you are feeling, they may all agree with you that you are right in feeling what you are feeling. You get to be right but you don’t get to be happy and happy is what you want to be, what you love being. Negative emotions have value as they help you in giving birth to new desires or amend the earlier ones but you don’t like when you are feeling negative emotions as that is not who you truly are (there could be situations where a negative emotion like anger feels better like when one is in despair as anger feels more powerful than despair but you don’t like to get stuck in anger for long….you eventually yearn to feel relief and ease).

You are pure positive energy and that is why you love feeling positive emotions. Don’t you like it when you feel joy? Don’t you feel good when you find yourself appreciating things/people/places/experiences? Don’t you find love such a wonderful feeling? The answer to these questions is yes and you do that because that’s who you are, that’s who your inner self is. When you hold yourself in negative emotion (however justified it may be), you are far away from your true inner self and the negative emotion is an indicator that you are separate or disconnected in that moment from who you truly are because of the thoughts you have chosen.

Whenever you become aware that you are feeling negative emotion and want to and more important, feel ready to think positive feeling thoughts, you can consider distracting yourself to a topic which you find easy to appreciate. Yes, it can be an effort in the beginning and that’s where distraction to a topic which is “easy” for you to feel good about helps. Distraction has huge power.

As you continue doing so more often every day, you will allow more moments on a daily basis where you are feeling the positive emotions you like to feel predominantly and consistently (not always but predominantly and consistently). As you find yourself more and more at this place of strength and feeling good, chances are high that you will be able to look at the topic which was painful for you in a way which gives you the relief you so much want to feel with regard to it (in many cases, because of the new, predominant and consistent vibrational place that you are in, you will find that the topic which was painful earlier has resolved itself and the solution is pleasing to you. If it hasn’t resolved, because of the place of strength (rather than struggle/ negative emotion/ resistance) that you are in, you will be able to look at it in a way which makes you feel better…may not be enthusiastic in that red hot minute but better than where you were earlier on it).

When in a place of positive emotions, not only will you be feeling what you want to feel but you will also allow the law of attraction to match you up with more positive feeling experiences. You will allow yourself to be matched up with the answer/solution that you seek in its full potential and in a way which has ease. The frequency/ feeling of the solution is different from the frequency of the problem. By allowing positive feeling thoughts predominantly and consistently, you become a match to the solution rather than the problem. You want the solution as you believe it will make you feel better. If you can feel better before it comes, you allow it to come to you easily and in it’s full glory.

You can thought by thought, moment by moment choose through your path of least resistance the thoughts that feel better to you. We have the ability to think the thoughts we want to think much more than we give ourselves credit for.

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“Anytime you feel negative emotion, stop and say: Something is important here; otherwise, I would not be feeling this negative emotion. What is it that I want? And then simply turn your attention to what you do want. . . . In the moment you turn your attention to what you want, the negative attraction will stop; and in the moment the negative attraction stops, the positive attraction will begin. And—in that moment—your feeling will change from not feeling good to feeling good. That is the Process of Pivoting.”

– Abraham-Hicks

Excerpted from the workshop: Money and the Law of Attraction on August 31, 2008

 

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There is value in choosing what makes your heart sing

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“Follow your bliss and remember that unless you feel good about yourself, you have nothing of value to offer to another.”

– Abraham-Hicks

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When you are feeling joy, when you choose what makes your heart sing, when you allow yourself to feel ease, when you have a spring in your step, when you choose to feel appreciation – you are of immense value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

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Hope can change lives

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“I can begin again”

– Abraham-Hicks

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You never miss the bus. You can always press the restart button to your life whenever you want to and feel ready to do so. There is always hope.

You know it in the core of your being that life is supposed to be good for you. That is why when your life does not go the way you want it to, you don’t like that because you know the off-ness of that physical reality. Every time you feel negative emotion, it’s because you “know” deep within that life is supposed to feel good to you, that you are meant to be happy, that well-being is the order of the day. And guess what? You are right.

All you need to do in those moments of feeling negative emotion is distract yourself to something that is easy for you to appreciate. As you pivot, as you flip from negative feeling thoughts to positive feeling thoughts (in a way which is easy for you from wherever you are vibrationally), you allow yourself to feel relief. As you feel relief predominantly and consistently, you allow the law of attraction to match you up with all that you desire in your physical reality. The law of attraction states – “like attracts like” – i.e. what you are feeling attracts more to feel the same. You want your desires because you believe that when you have what you want, you will feel good (it is that feeling that you are targeting). When you feel positive emotions (even though what you want has not yet manifested in your physical reality), you allow your desires to manifest in your life easily and in their full potential. It’s not that anyone is punishing you for feeling negative emotions (and thereby keeping what you want away from you). Far from it, the universe loves and adores you always (even when you are feeling negative emotion) but when you are feeling negative emotion, your vibration/feelings/frequency is different from the frequency of your desires and therefore, the law of attraction can’t match you up with what you want. We use our understanding of the law of gravity to make our lives easier. We can do the same with our understanding of the law of attraction. Soothing yourself is what turns you in the direction of what you want and what you know in your core is your birthright which is – “life is supposed to be good for you”.

The suggestion is to take small steps towards what you want (you can take quantum leaps but they could be too much to handle so why not just take it easy by taking baby steps as per your readiness and appreciating all-that-is as you allow what you want). There is no right or wrong in this. It’s all as per your readiness. We all have our own beautiful, individual and unique journeys.

By being kind and gentle with yourself, the journey will be so much more easier. You will feel ease when you are kind and gentle with yourself and as you allow ease predominantly and consistently, you will allow the law of attraction to match you up with all that you want in all its glory. You will not be able to totally eliminate moments in which you feel negative emotion as they help you grow by giving birth to new desires or amending your earlier desires so even though they can be painful, they do have value but you will be able to reduce them by allowing more of the positive feeling moments on an everyday basis. You will start living life as you intended it to be – joyful moments, predominantly and consistently and therefore, allowing more and more life experiences which make you even more happy. Extremely empowered place to be in.

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Letting go of the struggle allows relief

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“I stopped trying to explain myself to those who cannot hear my explanation. That’s big.”

– Abraham-Hicks
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These words are simple, profound and so freeing. Letting go of the struggle can allow the relief one wants to feel. From this place of relief, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

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Deliberately allowing feel-good moments has value

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“Satisfying relationships don’t bring alignment. Alignment brings satisfying relationships.

Do you see what must come first?”

– Abraham-Hicks

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You are not happy because you are living a good life. You are living a good life because you are happy. You allow your desires to manifest “easily” and “in their full potential” when you start reconnecting to your ability to feel relief, to feel better, to feel good, no matter what.

As you practice unconditional alignment/joy/feeling positive emotions predominantly and consistently, you reconnect to your freedom and power. Even for people who feel ecstasy on a rather regular basis, allowing feel-good moments is a practice. The good news is that as you practice, it does get easier. In this place of strength, you mostly feel emotions that you like (i.e. positive feeling emotions) and you allow the law of attraction to match you up with more positive feeling moments as the law of attraction states – “like attracts like” – what you are feeling attracts more to feel the same. The better it gets, the better it gets.

The law of attraction does not state that you feel positive all the time (negative emotions can be painful but they do have value as they are part of our inner guidance). Even if you can feel positive emotions 55% of the time on a daily basis, you would have made a substantial difference to your predominant and consistent vibrations/ feelings and hence to the kind of life experiences that manifest in your physical reality. We have the ability to feel the emotions that we want to feel much more than we give ourselves credit for.

Initially, it may require effort but it’s like learning a new software program or a new skill – initially it requires effort and as one goes along, it gets easier and easier. What helps us in this practice is knowing that we love feeling positive emotions. Anything that anyone wants – more money, starting a new venture, a promotion at work, a more loving relationship, bigger car, better house, health etc. is all because one believes that one will better in the having of it. It is that positive feeling that we are targeting because we love positive emotions. We love them because that is who we are – pure positive energy and we always feel the call of who we are when we choose to separate ourselves from it and we feel good when we reconnect to it.

Practicing the art of allowing positive emotions on a daily basis does have value.

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Negative emotion is part of your inner guidance

 

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“Are you under the misimpression that negative emotion is a bad thing?

Negative emotion is not a bad thing.

Negative emotion is guidance to help you redirect and refocus.

It’s all part of the dance.”

– Abraham-Hicks

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Negative emotion is our indicator that we are not where we want to be (we are not feeling the emotions that we want to feel, the emotions that we like) and therefore, it’s part of the inner guidance that we were born with – the manual within each one of us. Whenever you feel negative emotion, all its telling you is that you are not feeling positive emotion (which is what you want to feel – you love the feeling you feel when you feel worthy, when you love someone or something, when you appreciate, when you feel free, when you feel empowered, when you feel hope..) and if you feel ready, you can refocus to a better feeling thought.

If initially, you can’t find anything to feel better about the specific situation you are feeling negative feeling thoughts about, you can distract yourself to some other topic which is easy for you to appreciate. It may take a little effort initially just like it does when you are learning a new computer program or skill but as you go along, it gets easier to focus in a way which makes you feel better (not enthusiastic at that red-hot minute but a little better from where you are). As you continue feeling better every day in ways which are easy for you, chances are high that you will reach a place where you are feeling good predominantly and consistently. At this place, many times people find that the topic which they were worried or angry (or any other negative emotion) about has resolved itself because their predominant and consistent vibrations have changed. In case it has not resolved itself, chances are high that because of the new and improved vibrational place that you are in now (and therefore, in a place of strength rather than lack) you will feel ready to focus on it in a way which soothes you, which makes you feel better about it. If you don’t feel ready, that is okay too. I understand and respect that. We all have our own unique, beautiful, individual journeys. You can always choose to continue feeling positive emotions by focusing on topics which are easy for you to appreciate.

If you feel ready and choose to practice better feeling thoughts, thoughts which soothe you, thoughts which provide relief about the specific topic that was painful to you, you allow yourself to be matched by the law of attraction to the solution you are seeking. The topic was painful and therefore, you want to feel ease about it. You want a solution because you believe the solution will make you feel better. The feeling/vibration of the problem is pain and the feeling/vibration of the solution you want is ease/feeling better/feeling hope/feeling appreciation/feeling worthy/ feeling free/ feeling love. The frequency of the solution and the frequency of the problem are different. If you are at 108 FM and want to listen to some other FM channel, you have to turn the dial. If you have a problem, you have to focus on it in a way in which you are a vibrational match to the solution in order to allow the solution to come to you. The problem is important but if you are all warped/wrapped up in the problem, you are not a match to what you want i.e. the solution which is a different frequency/vibration/feeling. Artists, athletes, composers, authors, writers, inventors etc. have long realized that until and unless they are in the flow, nothing flows. By flow, it means being a vibrational match to the solution, predominantly and consistently.

By feeling better about that specific topic, you allow the solution to be realized by you because you are feeling the same frequency or in the vicinity of the frequency of the solution you desire. Everything that you want is because you believe that you will feel better in the having of it – whether it is more clarity, more confidence, starting a new venture, a promotion at work, a more nurturing relationship, better health, a bigger house etc. It is that feeling that you are targeting and when you can feel relief or hope or any other positive emotion (which you believe you will feel once the solution manifests in your life) even though what you want hasn’t manifested, you allow it to manifest “easily” and “in its full potential”.

Positive emotions and negative emotions are part of our guidance – the manual each one of us was born with. Knowing this helps in being kind and gentle with yourself whenever you find yourself feeling negative emotion. You are human and your emotions (both positive as well as negative) are part of your inner guidance. The good news is that you can step by step (at your own unique, beautiful, individual pace) feel a little better every day and thereby, allow what you want to come to you by being a vibrational match to it. You want to feel good because that is who you are – pure positive energy and whenever you choose to think thoughts that make you feel negative emotion, that negative emotion is an indicator that you are not a match to who you are and therefore, you don’t like feeling negative emotion. Yes, sometimes, anger can feel good because its more powerful than a feeling of despair, helplessness or depression but if you get stuck at anger and don’t move towards positive feeling thoughts, you don’t like it.

When the indicator tells you that the fuel tank in your car is near empty, you decide to get it filled up at the nearest gas station. You feel good that you have an indicator which lets you know. You do not get angry at the indicator. You feel good as you realize it’s value. It’s the same with negative emotions. They are your indicator that you are thinking thoughts which are so far apart from who you truly are. They are an indicator of the gap between who you are choosing to be/ the thoughts you are thinking in that moment and who you are truly are. Whenever you will have this gap, the negative emotions (could be fear or anger or hatred or rage or guilt or despair etc.) you feel are your indicator that you have chosen to separate yourself from the pure positive energy that you are. The negative emotion is the evidence that you are feeling the call of who you truly are and because of the thoughts you are choosing to think in that moment, you are not aligned with who you are. The good news is that you can choose. You are free to choose the thoughts you think in your mind. Sharing a beautiful quote by Abraham-Hicks here – “you are so free, you can choose bondage”.

Negative emotions may not feel good but they do have value as they indicate to you (if you are sensitive, you can become aware of negative thoughts early on which does make it easy to deactivate them by activating positive feeling thoughts. Not that you can’t change them later on but it is relatively easier in the early stages) that you are not where you want to be and you may want to consider refocusing in a way which makes you feel the emotions that you truly are – joy, appreciation, worthy, free, empowered and love not only because that is who you are but that is how you allow the solutions you want to be realized by you. That is how you start living predominantly and consistently as the creator (of your life experiences) you intended to be when you came in this time-space-reality. Such an empowered place to live life from.

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There is always hope

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“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”

– Alexander Graham Bell

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There is always another way to allow what you want. As Abraham-Hicks say – “you never miss the bus”. There is always another ship at the dock.

All you have to do is allow yourself to see it by feeling relief, by feeling a little better every day, by knowing that all is well. Your planet is spinning in perfect proximity to other planets on its own. The cells in your body know what they have to do. The blood continues to flow in your body on its own. You do not tell anyone to keep an eye on your heartbeat when you take a nap lest it stop beating. You trust that it will continue beating. The cells in an embryo know which one will be part of which organ. Food continues to grow on our planet – in other words, it is not being flown in from other planets. There is so much well-being within us and around us, surrounding us all the time and if we focus on it, we will feel it and in time, know it. Feeling the well-being helps in knowing that all is well and that helps in regaining balance and reconnecting to one’s alignment when one door closes. There is always another avenue through which what you want can manifest in your physical reality as you allow it.

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The secret to what you want

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“The greatest gift you can give to any partner – past, present or future is to be so connected with who You-Truly-Are that they are irrelevant to your connection. And when they are irrelevant to your connection, then you are going to have a really good time together.”

– Abraham-Hicks

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Who you truly are is pure positive energy. That is why you love feeling positive emotions. Negative emotions are also part of your guidance but it’s the positive emotions that you love because you are pure positive energy. Anything that you want (a better career, a more loving relationship, moving to another place, more money, better health, bigger house, starting a new venture etc) is because you believe you will feel better in the having of it. It is that positive emotion that you are targeting. And when you can show yourself that you do have the ability to feel good through the power of your focus (not always but predominantly and consistently), no matter what (even when what you want hasn’t manifested in your physical reality) – you feel good (which is the reason you want what you want) and you allow the law of attraction to match you up with more to make it easy for you to feel good even further. The journey to what you want becomes “easy” and what you want manifests in its “full potential”. You start living life as the creator you intended to be – creator of the life experiences that you desire. You reconnect to your power.

In the moments that you are connected to who you truly are, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

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Your relationship with you is the most important relationship

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“The thing which will most certainly disconnect you from your energy source faster than anything is to criticize yourself, see yourself as inappropriate or unworthy in some way.”

 

“And so we say, friends, nothing is more important than that you establish your own relationship with you. It our promise to you that your Inner Being adores you, but you close the door when you think thoughts of lack about yourself.”

– Abraham-Hicks

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