Life Coaching with Sonal

Empowering those who are asking for what they want, those who want to live their dreams, those who believe deep within that life is supposed to be good – and that is you.

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Say yes to yourself!

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“You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no.”

– unknown.

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Say yes to yourself. The greatest gift that you can give to yourself and to others is your happiness, is honoring the magnificent creation of life that you are, is genuinely appreciating and loving yourself (this is different from arrogance or vanity which are always from a place of fear as Louise Hay says), is supporting and nurturing yourself, is doing what gives you relief, is doing what makes your heart sing, is doing what puts a spring in your step, is doing what gives you joy and ease, is making your happiness a priority. From this place of feeling good, love and strength, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

I would like to add here that only you know what you want to say no to and what you want to say yes to because only you know what feels the most easy to you or what feels the path of least resistance to you. There is no right or wrong here. The suggestion is to focus on what gives you relief, what soothes you, what make you feel better.

Sharing a beautiful Abraham Hicks video. It lends further clarity on feeling good. The video short (4 minutes), simple and profound.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0w_UaXDurc0

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I am worthy of love simply because I exist :)

 

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“As I looked at the great tapestry that was the accumulation of my life up to that point, I was able to identify exactly what had brought me to where I was today.

Just look at my life path! Why, oh why, have I always been so harsh with myself? Why was I always beating myself up? Why was I always forsaking myself? Why did I never stand up for myself and show the world the beauty of my own soul?

Why was I always suppressing my own intelligence and creativity to please others? I betrayed myself every time I said “yes” when I meant “no”! Why have I violated myself by always needing to seek approval from others just to be myself? Why haven’t I followed my own beautiful heart and spoken my own truth?

Why don’t we realize this when we’re in our physical bodies? How come I never knew that we’re not supposed to be so tough on ourselves?

I still felt myself completely enveloped in a sea of unconditional love and acceptance. I was able to look at myself with fresh eyes, and I saw that I was a beautiful being of the Universe. I understood that just the fact that I existed made me worthy of this tender regard rather than judgment. I didn’t need to do anything specific; I deserved to be loved simply because I existed, nothing more and nothing less.”

– Anita Moorjani, Dying to Be Me: My Journey from Cancer, to Near Death, to True Healing

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The value of being selfish

Jerry: So, there’s nothing wrong with taking “the coward’s way out”?

Abraham: There are many people who override their own guidance system by trying to please others, and there are many people who will call you “selfish” or “cowardly” when you have the audacity to please yourself rather than them. Often others will call you “selfish” (because you are unwilling to yield to their own selfishness) without realizing the hypocrisy of their demand.

Sometimes, we are accused of teaching selfishness, and we admit that it is true because if you are not selfish enough to tend to your own vibration and therefore hold yourself in alignment with your source (and with-you-really-are), then you have nothing to give to another anyway. When others call you “selfish” or “cowardly,” their own vibrations are clearly out of balance, and a modification of your behavior will not bring them into balance.

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And even if it does bring them into balance, it will be very temporary. After some time, they will again demand a modification of your behavior in order to feel good. As you continue doing so, you will do them a big disservice as you will teach them to depend on someone else for their happiness whereas they (just like you) have the ability to feel good by focusing on topics in a way which feels good (i.e. everyone can feel good on their own). You will also observe that as you continue modifying your behavior in order to make them happy, their demands keep increasing and as you keep meeting their increasing demands, you start resenting the very relationship you wanted to be of value to. Now you have nothing to give firstly to yourself and also to those that you wanted to give to, as you are now in a place of lack rather than a place of strength.

The only thing which is of value is to focus on good feeling thoughts yourself and when you are predominantly and consistently feeling good, the law of attraction will surround you with experiences who make you feel the same i.e. feel good. Usually, it happens that we feel when we are surrounded by experiences which make it easy for us to feel better. Yes, you do feel better easily if your reality is what you want it to be but the way you create your experiences is by first feeling good yourself even though the experiences you want have not manifested yet.

Thankfully, there are ways to feel good even if you are not living the reality you want. You can nap, you can take a walk next to nature, you can meditate, you can play with your child, you can have a relaxing warm bath, you can appreciate something which is easy for you to appreciate, you can talk to a supportive and trustworthy friend, you can indulge in a hobby etc. As you create more and more feel good moments through these general ways on an every day basis, you allow the law of attraction to match you up with the kind of experiences you want. That is when we start leveraging the power of the universe. That is when people look and say – “it’s a miracle” or that “she/he is lucky” but what you are doing is not unconscious creating; it is deliberate creation at its best. In addition, because now that you are deliberating creating, you can replicate the process in any area of your life wherein you want to change the results. It starts with being selfish enough to use any excuse in order to feel good predominantly and consistently, no matter what your reality is.

The law of attraction states “that which is like unto itself, is drawn” i.e. what you think and therefore feel, attracts more to feel the same. It’s a powerful law just like the law of gravity. We understand the law of gravity and use our knowledge about it to make our lives easier. We can do the same with the law of attraction too.

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You have a choice

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“If you see friends who are experiencing illness, try to imagine them well. Notice that when you focus upon their illness, you feel bad; but when you focus upon their possible recovery, you feel good.”

– Abraham
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The way you focus on the situation makes a difference to the way you feel about it and the way you feel about it, attracts more to feel the same according to the law of attraction. It’s the energy you are sending out there. The best part is that you have complete control over the way you focus.

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Being connected to your awesomeness has value

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It’s important that you are connected to your awesomeness predominantly, not just for yourself but also in order to be of value to anyone else you would want to be of value to.
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You help others most from your place of thriving, your abundance, your happiness!

– A post from the blog – joypassiondesire

“You might think that we are saying: Love only yourself, and not others. Or it might feel to you that we are encouraging an either/or sort of thing, where you take care of you and you don’t take care of them.

Where really what we’re saying is, if you don’t take care of you, you haven’t got anything to take care of them with.

A person can be watching someone who’s in trouble in some way – maybe they’re sick, whatever – and it’s possible for you to empathize so much with their sickness, that you completely disallow your connection to your source, and now all you can do is commiserate with them. You have no strength, nothing to give them.

The analogy that we offer is: two people walking along a mountain path,
a very narrow ledge. Or let’s say there are three of you, and you have need to be steadied.

Maybe you hurt your foot, or maybe you are at a high altitude and you are losing your ability to be stable, and you have two friends with you, and one of them has been commiserating with you, and is limping and is as unsteady as you are. And the other one is sure-footed and strong and steady.

Which one are you glad is there?

In other words, whose arm would you reach out for?

So often our dear friends who care so much, get so involved in what’s wrong, that they lose their connection with source. And then they join together in numbers, thinking that joining together in numbers will give them strength, but a bunch of weak people, even in numbers, aren’t strong, you see.

Get a whole bunch of confused people together and see how much clarity comes out of it.
In other words, you can’t just add one more confused person to the pot and expect to get any clarity. And one standing outside of the confused group
who is clear, is more powerful than a million who are confused.”

– Abraham Hicks, 9/1/04

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