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Loving yourself just the way you are has value

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“I love myself exactly as I am. I no longer wait to be perfect in order to love myself.”

– Louise Hay

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Some may say – “if I accept myself and love myself just the way I am, I will never grow into more! I will never feel the desire to grow and expand more as per my potential! I may just get stuck where I am.” I totally understand and respect where these thoughts are coming from. It may seem like that but you can always grow into more with love in your heart. For example, if you are unwell, you can regain your health with mostly, hope in your heart or with mostly, helplessness. What you are feeling predominantly and consistently (not always but predominantly and consistently) during your recovery will make a world of a difference to the results you get. Now even science is recognizing something healers across the centuries knew – the mind-body connection.

We are ever-evolving beings. “More” is our essence and you can move towards the more that you want with love in your heart for life, for yourself. As Abraham-Hicks say, the best vibrational place to be in – “deeply satisfied where you are and eager for more”. Of course, when you are focused on a topic which makes it tempting for you to feel negative emotion, to have a knee-jerk reaction – that negative emotion helps you in giving birth to new desires and/or amending earlier desires and therefore, even though it may be painful, it has value as it leads to more clarity for you (of what you do not want and therefore, of what you want). At the same time, coming to know or realizing that you don’t have to unhappy where you are in order to want more can be so empowering. It’s about being at a place where you are already feeling the emotions that you want to feel, predominantly and consistently and from there, you want more – more clarity, more moments of confidence, more ideas, more understanding of your beingness, more flowing of thought from a place of feeling positive emotions, more kind people, more abundance, more insight, more moments of unconditional alignment/happiness, more unconditional love towards yourself and for others……

While allowing more of what we want in our lives, it could happen that some of us may feel moments where we are overwhelmed. It is okay to feel moments like this as we are human. It’s of value to be kind and gentle with ourselves. The feeling of being overwhelmed is an indicator that you feel that you have lots to do and have not lined up energy before offering action. If this happens, the suggestion is to soothe yourself and/or distract yourself to something which is easy for you to appreciate. As you feel better (in ways which are easy for you to feel relief), you line up energy and then you can offer the action you feel inspired to offer from that place of alignment/ strength rather than from the earlier place of lack.

You may have noticed that when you feel overwhelmed, you also feel an impulse to take a break or rest which is you listening to your inner guidance (as that period of rest helps in you feeling the relief that you so much want to feel when overwhelmed). You may have also noticed after resting for some time, you start feeling bored and again feel the desire/impulse to do something – this is because our essence (i.e. “more”) calls us… the universe is ever-expanding into more and we are part of the universe so that is our essence too. Of course, all of us have the freedom to choose the more that we want – some may like more ease at the particular point that they are in vibrationally like for example, relaxing at the beach and some like more thrill like being on a roller coaster (both are positive frequencies/vibrations/feelings but are different from each other) and that is so empowering – i.e. the freedom to choose…As Abraham-Hicks say – “you are so free, you can choose bondage”…

When we are happy where we are, when we make peace with where we are (even though we may not have liked it to start with) we allow the more that we want (from where we are) to manifest in our lives “easily” and in its “full potential”. This reminds me of the book title – “Good to Great” by Jim Collins. From good to great and then from great to even greater and so on – ever-expanding into more, always at the leading edge of one’s potential. It is not the only way to live what we want but it is an easy and effective way to live the life experiences that we want, predominantly and consistently.

If you can find ease, if you can connect to the well-being within you and surrounding you, if you can feel relief, if you can feel good, if you can love and appreciate yourself just the way you are, if you can focus in a way which makes you feel positive emotions – you start living life as you intended to live – in a place of joy, freedom, love, appreciation and worthiness, predominantly and consistently. Not that you will never have moments of negative emotion (these moments have value as you give birth to new desires and/or amend your previous desires when you are in a place of negative emotion – when you see illness, you want to see health; when you see poverty, you want to see prosperity; when you see a rude person, you want to see a kind person – moments of negative emotion help you know what you “do not want” and therefore, what you “do want” in a much more stronger, clearer way than before that moment of negative emotion and that clarity helps you in the process of allowing the kind of life experiences that you want….negative emotions may be painful but have value) but because of your practice on a daily basis (i.e. focusing on positive feeling thoughts), chances are high that you would have managed to acquire vibrational muscle and therefore, managed to tilt the balance towards positive feeling thoughts on a more predominant and consistent basis.

The law of attraction states – “like attracts like”. When you focus mostly on thoughts which make it easy for you to feel good, you feel positive emotions, predominantly and consistently and when you are in a place of positive emotions more than negative emotions on a daily basis, you allow this powerful law to match you up with more to feel good. You may be aware of the problems that you feel you have but because of this place of feeling good more often (i.e. a place of strength), you will be able to focus on your problems with a solution-oriented approach. The feeling or the frequency of the solution is different from the frequency of the problem. You want the solution to your problem because you feel that in the having of the solution, you will feel better. It is that feeling that you believe you will feel once you have the solution that you are really targeting (through the solution). If you can feel better even though the solution has not yet manifested, you allow it to manifest easily and in all its glory. Even if you can feel positive emotions 55% of the time on a daily basis, you would have managed to bring about a substantial change in your vibrations and therefore, of what manifests in your life.

If you are at 107.9 FM and want to listen to 106.7 FM, you have to change the dial. The frequencies are different. In the same way, the frequency of the problem (i.e. what you feel when you focus on just the problem) and the frequency of the solution are different. If you want the solution, you may consider feeling the same frequency or in the vicinity of that frequency. You may be aware of the problem but from the periphery so that you are not so wrapped up in it that you can’t see the solution. When you practice being in the same or similar frequency of the solution that you want, you allow the law of attraction to match you up with ideas, impulses and rendezvouses which allow the solution to be realized by you, the words you feel inspired to offer are from a place of being a match to the solution you want, the path lights up. You reconnect to your power.

Choosing feel-good thoughts is a practice, no doubt but just like learning a new skill or a computer program, it gets easier as you go along. By initially practicing thinking about topics which are easy for you to feel good about, you make this process of acquiring “vibrational muscle” easier. When you are mostly in this good-feeling place every day (not always but predominantly and consistently…as written earlier, pain has value as it helps you expand and grow beyond what you were before you felt it …at the same time, positive feeling emotions are what you want to feel more often as that is who you are – pure positive energy…you like it when you feel worthy, love, appreciation, joy, free as these emotions or feelings or frequencies are what your essence is – pure, positive energy), chances are high that you will be able to look at any topic (even if it was painful for you earlier) in a way which makes you feel better and thereby, see the solution “easily”. In most situations, you will see that because of your new and improved vibrational place, the topic which was painful has resolved itself as you have allowed the law of attraction to match you up with the solution but just in case it hasn’t, chances are high that now you will be able to look at it in a way which makes you feel relief, in a solution-oriented way. The suggestion here would be to look at a topic which was painful in a different way only when you feel ready to do so. It’s your own beautiful, unique, individual journey.

By feeling positive emotions predominantly and consistently, you are “in the flow” or what athletes call “being in the zone” (or in its vicinity) more often on an everyday basis and by doing so, you allow yourself to become a match to the solutions you want in a way which is easy and allows the full potential of the solution to be realized by you. You allow yourself to be the creator that you intended to be. You can allow the more that you want in your life with hope, ease and optimism (and as you move forward practicing your focus and therefore feeling positive emotions more often – eagerness, enthusiasm, appreciation…) in your heart. You may not be able to feel absolutely enthusiastic when you begin practicing your focus but even if you can feel just a little bit better every day from where you are, it makes the journey much easier. You have a good time not only when you allow the manifestation you want in your life in all its glory but you also have a good time on the way to that manifestation. Feeling positive emotions, wherever you are, has value.

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The magic is known by those expecting it

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“Those who do not believe in magic will never find it.”

– Roald Dahl

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Focused asking from a place of no resistance is the key to getting closer to all the answers.

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Believe

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“One cannot be prepared for something while secretly believing it will not happen.”

– Nelson Mandela

 

Believe in yourself

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“A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch but on it’s own wings. Always believe in yourself.”

– unknown

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You have a choice to either hold on or let go

 

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“You must release your desire for the approval of others, because as long as you are letting the approval of others affect you, you will always be in an out of balance situation, because they are all wanting something different from you.”

– Abraham

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Yes, it does feel good when others approve of us but if our feeling good is dependent upon the approval of others, when they do not approve, we are in trouble as now we cannot feel good till the time they approve of us and getting someone to change their thoughts when they do not want to change is frustrating and futile. Even if you succeed with one person, there are so many more in your life. Who all will you keep changing?

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Manifesting abundance in your life

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“Hard work is the only path to success”

“Rich people aren’t nice people”

“Money is the root of all evil”

“I find it uncomfortable to ask for the money which I feel I deserve”

“The economy is not doing well…it’s a bad situation to be in”

These are some of the phrases which you may have heard while you were growing up. They do seem fairly harmless. Some of them may have seemed true to you and therefore, you adopted them in your psyche either consciously or unconsciously.

These harmless thoughts repeated in your mind over a period of time become beliefs and since you also see that the experiences you have match up to the beliefs you hold so the beliefs make so much sense to you. You say “look I told you so, this is the way things are”. It’s like a self-fulfilling prophecy.

These beliefs start impacting your view of the world and since our thoughts affect our feelings and our feelings affect our reality according to the law of attraction, what if these beliefs are affecting your reality? The way to find out is look at your reality. If it’s what you want, then things are good but if your reality is not what you want, then you may like to consider the contribution your beliefs are making towards your reality.

Once you are aware of the hurdle in living the life you want, then you can always take steps to change them. There are many ways to clear up the clogged pipes or the negative beliefs and thereby, open the floodgates to the abundance which you want in your life and when I say abundance, I mean abundance of not only money but also abundance of clarity, abundance of confidence, abundance of empowerment, abundance of appreciation, abundance of freedom. When you feel abundance, the manifestations (including money) which match up to your feelings have to come. It is law. It is the law of attraction and it states “like attracts like”.

One of the most powerful and easy ways is to focus on things or people or experiences or topics which are easy to appreciate for you. When you do this, you feel better. As you continue finding moments during the day wherein you deliberately focus and feel better, soon you will find yourself feeling good many times during the day. You will then find the strength to distract yourself whenever you are feeling negative and instead focus on that which makes you feel what you want to feel i.e. good. As you continue on this path, you will then start allowing more and more experiences, in your reality, which will match upto your new vibrations i.e. experiences which make you feel even more good.

As you find yourself in a new place of strength, you can then start changing your beliefs by practicing affirmations, on a daily basis, which match the life you want to create. Affirmations are positive statements. There are a few affirmations below. You may like to choose the ones which resonate most with you at that point of time.

“I love and appreciate all the good I have in my life”
“I am divinely blessed with abundance”
“The universe supports me”
“The universe has my back”
“All is well”
“I attract prosperity in my life”
“My wealth is constantly increasing”
“I love myself”
“I love my life and my life loves me”

As you start practicing the affirmations above on an everyday basis, you start to change the self-limiting beliefs which may have been present earlier. You then start moving closer to the reality you want to create in your life.

There are many people in this world who despite the recession/ bad economy that may be prevailing in their country are experiencing abundance in their lives. They have a larger share in the abundance pie and these are people who have discovered the power of their thoughts behind the reality they live. Others may look at their lives and say “oh, they are lucky” or “it’s a miracle” or something else but these people now know “how to” manifest or increase the abundance in their lives by believing what they want to believe rather than what they have heard from others.

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The power of your thoughts and beliefs

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“Your beliefs and thoughts are wired into your biology. They become your cells, tissues and organs. There’s no supplement, no diet, no medicine, and no exercise regimen that can compare with the power of your thoughts and beliefs.

– Dr Christiane Northrup

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Letting go

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“If your environment keeps draining your energy, it’s like having a leaky bank account, where any money you’re putting into the bank, such as by seeing an energy healer, keeps slipping out. You have to change your environment, including any harmful beliefs, before the energy can stay high.”

– Dr. Bruce Lipton

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