Life Coaching with Sonal

Empowering those who are asking for what they want, those who want to live their dreams, those who believe deep within that life is supposed to be good – and that is you.

Tag: bondage

I’am going to be happy – no matter what

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“We are really advocates of just getting as happy as you can be — which takes care of everything.

Even if you don’t have reason to be happy — make it up. Fantasize it.

Make a decision that you’re going to be happy one way or another — no matter what.

No matter what, I’m going to be happy! If I have to ignore everybody;

if I have to never watch television again;

if I have to never pick up a newspaper again, I’m going to be happy.

If I never have to see that person’s face again, I’m going to be happy.

If I have to see that person’s face, I’m going to find something to see in that person’s face that makes me happy.

I’m going to be happy.

I’m going to be happy.

I’m going to be happy.”

– Abraham Hicks

(the above words by Abraham have been shared from the blog joypassiondesire)

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Off course, the “inner work” is to reach a point wherein no matter what your physical reality is, you feel happy but if you are not able to feel happy while in your current physical reality, then are you supposed to tolerate your negative emotions till you wither away?

No! You can get some distance between that which pains you and you. In that time and space that you get, you can sharpen your focus till the time you are able to focus on any topic (even if it was painful to you earlier) and find something in it to feel better about it (it can be but need not be enthusiastically happy…. just feeling better is awesome too while on your path to feeling good about it) i.e. you achieve stability in your good feeling thoughts. As you do that, you reconnect to your invincibility, to your freedom. The power which creates worlds flows through you. In fact, it is you.

Yes, sometimes, because of the way we are focused on a situation, we cannot feel positive emotion. There is nothing wrong in it. We are human and we need to be easy on ourselves. Negative emotion always tells us that we have grown but have not gone ahead with our growth. Whenever we feel upto it, we can change the way we are focused on it and thereby taste true freedom – i.e. free to feel whatever emotion we want to feel irrespective of what is happening around us. Sometimes, choosing to distance oneself from what is painful helps in reaching this place of strength and therefore, is the path of least resistance (it need not be but sometimes, it is and only you know that by the way you feel about it). From this place of strength, we are of value to ourselves and to anyone else we may want to be of value to.

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True freedom

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“When I accept myself, I am freed from the burden of needing you to accept me”

– Steve Maraboli

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Babies love and accept themselves just the way they are 🙂 …thats how we all were and we can still reconnect to that love for ourselves if we would want to.

You can relearn how to reach a place of no wobble

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“Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.”

– Khalil Gibran

We have free will

“How deep is the mud?

Depends on who you ask.

 

We all go through the same stuff differently.

– Gregg Braden

 

 

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This reminds me of a profound quote by Abraham – “you are so free, you can choose bondage.”

Selfish enough to feel good about yourself

Lady with white flowers - Neill Kumar

“I will never let myself down, treat myself like a doormat, or make myself small so others can feel big. I have learned that this is the biggest gift that I give, not only to myself, but also to the planet, because I paint others with the same brush as I use on myself.”

– Anita Moorjani

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When you are selfish enough to feel good about yourself on your own, you are able to feel good about others too. When you are at a place of ease within yourself, it’s easier to look at others with kindness and love. Of course my suggestion would be don’t do it for others, do it because it feels so good to feel good about yourself and from that place of strength, can you imagine the value you would bring to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to?

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Believe in yourself

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“A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch but on it’s own wings. Always believe in yourself.”

– unknown

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You have a choice to either hold on or let go

 

man with sand flowing out of hand - Forrest Cavale

“You must release your desire for the approval of others, because as long as you are letting the approval of others affect you, you will always be in an out of balance situation, because they are all wanting something different from you.”

– Abraham

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Yes, it does feel good when others approve of us but if our feeling good is dependent upon the approval of others, when they do not approve, we are in trouble as now we cannot feel good till the time they approve of us and getting someone to change their thoughts when they do not want to change is frustrating and futile. Even if you succeed with one person, there are so many more in your life. Who all will you keep changing?

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Let it go for the ease letting go brings to you

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“As I walked out of the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison. “

– Nelson Mandela

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So freeing

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“Remember: what other people think of you is none of your business!”

– James Van Praagh

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