Life Coaching with Sonal

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Say yes to yourself!

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“You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no.”

– unknown.

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Say yes to yourself. The greatest gift that you can give to yourself and to others is your happiness, is honoring the magnificent creation of life that you are, is genuinely appreciating and loving yourself (this is different from arrogance or vanity which are always from a place of fear as Louise Hay says), is supporting and nurturing yourself, is doing what gives you relief, is doing what makes your heart sing, is doing what puts a spring in your step, is doing what gives you joy and ease, is making your happiness a priority. From this place of feeling good, love and strength, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

I would like to add here that only you know what you want to say no to and what you want to say yes to because only you know what feels the most easy to you or what feels the path of least resistance to you. There is no right or wrong here. The suggestion is to focus on what gives you relief, what soothes you, what make you feel better.

Sharing a beautiful Abraham Hicks video. It lends further clarity on feeling good. The video short (4 minutes), simple and profound.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0w_UaXDurc0

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Loving yourself

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“Wouldn’t it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew it would make you happy? This is precisely how much life loves you and wants you to nurture yourself. The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth. Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfillment from inside out.”

– Alan Cohen
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As people feel a resonance with the thought of loving themselves, I am often asked how can we love ourselves? What does it mean to love ourselves? My answer is to initially appreciate topics which are easy for you to feel good about. As you do so throughout the day, everyday, you will reach a place where you are feeling better and stronger predominantly and consistently. From this place of strength, if you feel ready, you can choose to put your loving gaze on yourself too. Chances are high that now because of the new and improved vibrational place that you are in, you will be able to love and appreciate yourself easily.

I must add that loving ourselves is not arrogance or vanity (that is always from a place of fear as Louise Hay says). Loving ourselves means genuinely appreciating the magnificent creation of life that we are.

A question can arise in some – Why would you choose to love yourself? Because when you love yourself, you will feel good and you love feeling good. That is what your essence is. You are pure positive energy. Don’t you love it when you are in love? Don’t you find feeling good awesome? Everything you want – a more nurturing relationship, better health, bigger car, a promotion at work, starting a new venture, more money etc. is all because you believe that you will feel good in the having of it. It is that feeling that you are targeting. When you love yourself, you find it easy to make choices which make you feel even more good, predominantly and consistently. From this place of strength, you are of so much value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

When you feel love for yourself, you allow the law of attraction to match you with people who also feel love and appreciation for you. The law of attraction states “like attracts like”. What you are feeling attracts more to feel the same. It is a very powerful law just like the law of gravity. We use our knowledge and understanding of the law of gravity to make our lives easy. We can do the same with the law of attraction too.

Another beautiful thing happens when you start feeling good predominantly and consistently. What you are feeling determines the action which is inspired from within you. When you are feeling despair (with regard to any one topic in your life which is important to you or with regard to many topics), there is a particular kind of action which you feel like offering. When you are feeling anger, there is another kind of action that you feel like offering. When you are feeling hope, there is yet another kind of action that you feel like offering and when you are feeling love and appreciation, there is another kind of action that you feel inspired to offer. The action you offer is important but more important is the vibrational place from where it is inspired.

When you are predominantly and consistently feeling either love and appreciation or in the vicinity of it, can you imagine the power of that? The words that you feel liking saying, the thoughts and impulses which come to you, the way you focus on various topics, the action that you feel inspired to offer – all of it is, predominantly and consistently, from a place of strength, a place of true freedom, a place of feeling good, a place of love.

My suggestion would be don’t love yourself for anyone else, don’t do it because you will be of more value to whoever you want to be of value to (which you will be…from that place of love, appreciation, feeling worthy, joy, freedom, feeling empowered, you bring the “whole of you” to any topic/ person you want to be of value to), do it because it feels good to you, do it because you are pure positive energy, do it because you love to feel love, do it for that beautiful feeling of love, do it for yourself.

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I am worthy of love simply because I exist :)

 

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“As I looked at the great tapestry that was the accumulation of my life up to that point, I was able to identify exactly what had brought me to where I was today.

Just look at my life path! Why, oh why, have I always been so harsh with myself? Why was I always beating myself up? Why was I always forsaking myself? Why did I never stand up for myself and show the world the beauty of my own soul?

Why was I always suppressing my own intelligence and creativity to please others? I betrayed myself every time I said “yes” when I meant “no”! Why have I violated myself by always needing to seek approval from others just to be myself? Why haven’t I followed my own beautiful heart and spoken my own truth?

Why don’t we realize this when we’re in our physical bodies? How come I never knew that we’re not supposed to be so tough on ourselves?

I still felt myself completely enveloped in a sea of unconditional love and acceptance. I was able to look at myself with fresh eyes, and I saw that I was a beautiful being of the Universe. I understood that just the fact that I existed made me worthy of this tender regard rather than judgment. I didn’t need to do anything specific; I deserved to be loved simply because I existed, nothing more and nothing less.”

– Anita Moorjani, Dying to Be Me: My Journey from Cancer, to Near Death, to True Healing

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Feel good, no matter what

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“Love yourself enough, that you are willing to stop torturing yourself with negative emotion.”

– Abraham

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When you love yourself, it’s easier to find the will to distract yourself from negative thoughts to thoughts which make you feel relief, which make you feel better, which make you feel good. You make the effort (initially, it can be an effort) of changing your feelings from negative to positive because you love feeling good. Anything that you want – better health, bigger car, more money, a more nurturing relationship, starting a venture, career growth etc. is because you believe that you will feel better in the having of it. It is that positive emotion that you are targeting.

You love positive emotions because that is who you are. You are pure positive energy. When you are feeling good, predominantly and consistently i.e. when you are aligned with who you truly are, predominantly and consistently, it gets even more easier to continue replacing negative thoughts as and when they occur with positive thoughts on this beautiful journey called life.

From this place of feeling good, you are at a place of strength and not a place of lack and therefore, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to. You are leveraging the energy that creates worlds when you are feeling good. You “easily” flow this energy which flows to you and through you toward all that you care about.

You may be able to think of solutions from a place where you are not feeling good but those solutions will be at best, mediocre ones. The solutions which come to you from a place of strength, from a place where you are feeling good are master solutions rather than mediocre ones.

Athletes, authors, composers, artists etc. are among some of the people in the world who have long realized that until and unless they are in the flow, nothing flows. That being “in the flow” or being “in the zone” comes from a place where you are thinking good feeling thoughts.

If not for anything else, one may choose to feel good simply because it feels so good to feel good 🙂

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Happy New Year!

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“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.”

– Joseph Campbell

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Affirming that you choose to follow your bliss, you choose what makes you happy, what makes you smile, what makes you feel relief, what makes you feel good, what makes your heart sing & what makes you have a spring in your step and thereby, allow more of what you want to come your way with ease this year.

Happy New Year!

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We are all free

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It’s just so happened that on some occasions in the past whenever I was feeling good, I saw butterflies. So connecting these two, I started noticing butterflies and feeling good and since feeling good is the same feeling as that of being aligned to who we are, I thought that seeing butterflies means I am aligned or in other words, I started seeing butterflies as a sign of my alignment. Alignment meant that I am feeling good and therefore, am allowing the law of attraction to match me up with more to feel even more good. Thinking like this, I started seeing butterflies as a sign of more good to come.

For me it was butterflies but for someone else, it could be something other than butterflies – maybe, a rainbow, maybe seeing a particular number, a particular color etc. Many people start thinking – “if I see, the day will be good” or ”if I see that, the day will be negative” as the case maybe. Based on each individual’s experience, he/she can have other things which he/she feels are a sign of one’s alignment and hence, a sign of what is to come.

Thankfully, based on what I now “know”, I snapped out of it pretty soon. I realized that instead of projecting my thoughts and connecting the two, I can always acknowledge my ability to feel good on my own with or without butterflies. Of course, it feels good to see butterflies (or any other thing that one likes) but I am not dependent on them to feel good. I can feel good on my own too i.e. through the feel-good thoughts I choose to focus on. When I do that, I reconnect to my freedom – i.e. the freedom we all have to feel good on our own, irrespective of the situation we are observing.

So, now when I see butterflies, do I smile and feel good? Yes, I do but it is not because I feel that they are a sign of my alignment but because I find them beautiful.

Am I dependent on seeing butterflies to feel good? No, I am not. I am free and so is everyone else on this planet to feel good on their own…through the power of our own focus.

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Feeling free

 

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“I stopped explaining myself when I realized people only understand from their level of perception.”

– Unknown

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This is so freeing. When you are feeling good and you try and explain something to someone who is not feeling good (but wants to feel good), what you say will just be irritating to him even though he wants to feel good. He is not ready and “that is okay”. We all have our own individual journeys and what resonates with one person many not necessarily resonate with another.

If you continue to try and explain to him, you will find yourself defending what you are explaining which will make you lose your good feeling place. Once you lose that good feeling place, you are not of any value to yourself and to anyone else you want to be of value to. Though you can regain your good feeling place, if you want to but in those moments of not feeling good, you are so far from where you want to be.

You can save your energy by feeling good wherever you are and thereby allowing the law of attraction to match you up with people who are also vibrationally in the same place as you and then the interactions are so much fun and so satisfying.

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Don’t take action if you feel fear

 

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“There are those that say, if you do the uncomfortable thing long enough, it will become comfortable.

But we are really not encouragers of that.

We are encouragers of coming into alignment, and then taking the action. We are encouragers always of getting rid of the fear; we would never want you to keep doing things that you feel fearful about.

And maybe the path of least resistance is just not get on the horse. Maybe the path of least resistance is to get on a different horse—but we would never move forward in fear.”

– Abraham

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Do you put others first?

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“When you put others first, it backfires 100% of the time.”

– Abraham

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Rather than others, when you decide to connect with “self” and ultimately connect with “source”, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to. It all starts first with “you”.

So how does this play out in everyday life? For example, if you have a boss/ spouse/child etc who is demanding something from you which you do not feel like giving. You can say to yourself in your mind or even to them if you feel like it – “dear boss/spouse/child (whoever it is in the situation), I would really like to do what you are asking me to do but before that I just want to take care of one thing i.e. that I feel good about doing it and right now, I can’t.”….Now your work is to first ascertain whether it is something that you would like to change your feelings about or not. Sometimes, you may not feel like changing your vibrations/feelings about it which is a decision only you can take as only you know what you are feeling. If you don’t feel like changing your vibrations about it and therefore, do not do anything, the suggestion would be not to offer the action being asked of you.

Sometimes, the action being demanded out of you may be something which “you feel” you “have to do” (maybe in order to keep the job or the relationship/situation going, as of now). It may not be something which you want to do but something that you feel that you have to do which is choosing the “path of least resistance”. Before doing whatever action/ words etc the other is asking of you, you may like to soothe yourself about it so that you feel a little relief about offering that particular action. You may ask why should you soothe yourself? The reason being that firstly, it will make you feel better (may not be a great feeling immediately about it but a better feeling) and secondly, as you feel better, you allow the law of attraction to line you up with something which makes you feel even more better.

In either of the two scenarios, you have kept yourself first. From that place of alignment, you are of so much more value to yourself and then to anyone else you want to be of value to.

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I love and respect myself

 

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“Cutting some people out of my life, doesn’t mean I hate them. It simply means, I RESPECT me.”

– unknown

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