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Forgiveness, ease and freedom

On February 4, 2020

“Today I decided to forgive you. Not because you apologized, or because you acknowledged the pain that you caused me, but because my soul deserves peace.”

– Najwa Zebian

What is forgiveness? Forgiveness, in very simple words, is when you decide to let go of the pain and be the joyful, appreciative and loving person that you actually are. When you forgive, you are not saying that the act committed (or the series of acts committed) are justified or okay. They never will be.

When you forgive, you are letting go of all the anger, the pain and the resentment and thereby, allowing in the joy, the appreciation, the love that you so want to feel. Don’t you like it when you are in joy? Don’t you feel good when you find yourself appreciating things/people/places/experiences? Don’t you find love such a wonderful feeling? The answer to these questions is yes and you do that because that’s who you are, that’s who your inner self is. When you hold yourself in anger (however justified it may be), you are far away from your true inner self and you feel pain in that separation. You don’t like it but it’s so difficult to let go as the resentment feels so justified.

Yes, forgiveness can be difficult but living in anger, resentment, pain, hatred every time you think about it – isn’t that difficult too?

You may decide to continue the relationship or continue the relationship and also reach out for help or you may decide to either temporarily or permanently end the relationship and firstly get to a place where you feel safe … – whatever you choose as per what gives you the most relief (i.e. as per your path of least resistance which only you know), what is more important is what you feel within.

Forgiveness means letting go of the pain, the anger and the resentment in your heart and feeling the relief that you so much want to feel. Forgiveness means looking at the situation, whenever you feel ready to, in a way which makes you feel relief and therefore, closer to the ease you want to feel. Forgiveness is your gift to yourself.

“Forgive because you deserve it.”

― Abraham-Hicks

Forgiveness can come up many times in our unique and beautiful journeys as the day-to-day experiences that make the tapestry of our lives are of great significance to us. Through the life coaching work that I do with my clients and what I see around makes me feel that it can be of help to remind ourselves of its value.

In the situations that one feels the desire to think about it, usually it does not happen in one swoop. It can be felt in one go by some people in some situations but generally it’s a process based on one’s path of least resistance. Initiating forgiveness by keeping one’s path of least resistance in mind makes it easier.

Affirming, for everyone, more and more moments of letting go of the resistance and letting in of relief, of ease, of feeling better than earlier. I feel the year – “2020” signifies something on the lines of a version “2.0” of ourselves for many of us who are willing and ready to start the process of letting go of the struggle, the resistance, the pain and letting in of the relief, the fresh air, the song in our hearts….letting in of the feeling of being empowered and free.

Affirming for everyone a beautiful 2020 filled with moments of ease, peace and joy!

The greatest gift you can give to yourself and to anyone else that you would like to be of value to is your own happiness

By LifeCoachSonal

On October 1, 2018

In Uncategorized

To hold someone as your object of attention while you’re connected to Source Energy, is the greatest gift that anyone could give. When you’re not happy, you don’t have anything to give. And so, what it literally means is be happy, because you cannot give anyone something that you do not feel.”

Excerpted from San Francisco, CA on 8/18/01

Our Love
Esther (Abraham and Jerry)
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It’s only from your place of strength that you are of value in its full potential to yourself and to anyone else that you would want to be of value to. Thinking positive feeling thoughts is worth a shot. You may not be able to feel enthusiastic this red-hot minute but just a little better from where you are on any everyday basis is all it takes for you to start feeling predominantly and consistently (not always but predominantly and consistently) in a place where you are feeling good (or in its vicinity).

Negative feeling moments have value (even though they may be painful) as they help you become aware of what it is that you “do not want” and therefore, of what it is that “you do want”. Once you have clarity about your desires, you can choose to be a match to what you want by being in the same frequency/ vibration/ feeling of it. You want what you want (whether it is a more nurturing relationship, kind people, happy interactions, more money, adding value, a bigger car, a better house, starting a business venture, a promotion at work, good health etc.) because you believe that you will feel better in the having of it. When you start feeling better now (even though what you want has not manifested yet in your physical reality), you allow the law of attraction to match you up with your desire “easily” and in “its full potential”. That’s when the solutions you want are not just solutions, they are master solutions.

A question can arise here – how do I feel positive when what I am focused on (and makes me feel negative emotion) is so in my face? It’s so much part of my reality that it’s an effort to feel relief. Yes, it may be an effort initially and “distraction” can help a lot here. Distracting yourself to topics which are easy to appreciate for you can help in deactivating the negative thoughts. You don’t even have to feel good all the time (negative emotions have value as they help you grow so they do serve a purpose) but even if you can practice feeling positive emotions 55% of the time on an everyday basis, you would have managed to change your predominant and consistent vibrations substantially and therefore, managed to be a match to your desires. Some suggestions – meditation can help, so can napping (yes 🙂 ), indulging in a hobby can help, speaking with a trustworthy and supportive friend, taking a walk next to nature, a relaxing warm bath – these (or any other way/ process that gives you relief, which makes you feel better, which makes it easy for you to feel good) are all general ways to feel good, practice your vibrational muscle, develop better shock absorbers in life and allow all that you want easily and effectively.
Once you are in a place of feeling good and therefore, in a place of strength predominantly and consistently, chances are high that you will be able to focus on any topic in a way that makes you feel better about it, which gives you relief, which is a match to the solution you desire. For some reaching this place of strength may take less time and for some more time and that is okay. We are human and being kind and gentle with ourselves helps. Knowing that it is an eternal journey helps in feeling ease about one’s beautiful, unique and individual pace.

Positive feeling moments have value as they help you “allow” all that you desire. These feel-good moments are when you are feeling the same emotion (or in its vicinity) as what you believe you will feel when you are living your desire in your physical reality. In this place of appreciation, freedom, joy and empowerment, you are a match to your desires, you are aligned with your desires and as Abraham-Hicks have said – “one who is in alignment is more powerful than a million who are not”, affirming more and more moments of alignment for all those who are asking for what they want.

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Focusing on what you desire rather than the problem which inspired your desire has value

By LifeCoachSonal

On June 4, 2018

In Uncategorized

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“It’s not necessary for you to exacerbate your contrast with struggle in order to get it into a higher place. It is not necessary to suffer in order to give birth to desire. But when you have suffered and you have given birth to a desire, so what? You’ve got a desire. Turn your attention to the desire. Think about where you’re going and never mind where you’ve been. Don’t spend any more time justifying any of that stuff.”

– Abraham- Hicks

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A suggestion which can help in feeling the relief you so much want to feel when in a place of negative emotion is to distract yourself to any topic which is easy for you to appreciate. As you do so, moment by moment you move closer to what you love feeling – ease, joy, love, free and worthy.

You may ask – “why should I do this? I am so justified in feeling the negative emotion that I am feeling.” Yes, you are right in feeling what you are feeling. If you tell ten people around you why you are upset or angry or any other negative emotion that you are feeling, they may all agree with you that you are right in feeling what you are feeling. You get to be right but you don’t get to be happy and happy is what you want to be, what you love being. Negative emotions have value as they help you in giving birth to new desires or amend the earlier ones but you don’t like when you are feeling negative emotions as that is not who you truly are (there could be situations where a negative emotion like anger feels better like when one is in despair as anger feels more powerful than despair but you don’t like to get stuck in anger for long….you eventually yearn to feel relief and ease).

You are pure positive energy and that is why you love feeling positive emotions. Don’t you like it when you feel joy? Don’t you feel good when you find yourself appreciating things/people/places/experiences? Don’t you find love such a wonderful feeling? The answer to these questions is yes and you do that because that’s who you are, that’s who your inner self is. When you hold yourself in negative emotion (however justified it may be), you are far away from your true inner self and the negative emotion is an indicator that you are separate or disconnected in that moment from who you truly are because of the thoughts you have chosen.

Whenever you become aware that you are feeling negative emotion and want to and more important, feel ready to think positive feeling thoughts, you can consider distracting yourself to a topic which you find easy to appreciate. Yes, it can be an effort in the beginning and that’s where distraction to a topic which is “easy” for you to feel good about helps. Distraction has huge power.

As you continue doing so more often every day, you will allow more moments on a daily basis where you are feeling the positive emotions you like to feel predominantly and consistently (not always but predominantly and consistently). As you find yourself more and more at this place of strength and feeling good, chances are high that you will be able to look at the topic which was painful for you in a way which gives you the relief you so much want to feel with regard to it (in many cases, because of the new, predominant and consistent vibrational place that you are in, you will find that the topic which was painful earlier has resolved itself and the solution is pleasing to you. If it hasn’t resolved, because of the place of strength (rather than struggle/ negative emotion/ resistance) that you are in, you will be able to look at it in a way which makes you feel better…may not be enthusiastic in that red hot minute but better than where you were earlier on it).

When in a place of positive emotions, not only will you be feeling what you want to feel but you will also allow the law of attraction to match you up with more positive feeling experiences. You will allow yourself to be matched up with the answer/solution that you seek in its full potential and in a way which has ease. The frequency/ feeling of the solution is different from the frequency of the problem. By allowing positive feeling thoughts predominantly and consistently, you become a match to the solution rather than the problem. You want the solution as you believe it will make you feel better. If you can feel better before it comes, you allow it to come to you easily and in it’s full glory.

You can thought by thought, moment by moment choose through your path of least resistance the thoughts that feel better to you. We have the ability to think the thoughts we want to think much more than we give ourselves credit for.

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“Anytime you feel negative emotion, stop and say: Something is important here; otherwise, I would not be feeling this negative emotion. What is it that I want? And then simply turn your attention to what you do want. . . . In the moment you turn your attention to what you want, the negative attraction will stop; and in the moment the negative attraction stops, the positive attraction will begin. And—in that moment—your feeling will change from not feeling good to feeling good. That is the Process of Pivoting.”

– Abraham-Hicks

Excerpted from the workshop: Money and the Law of Attraction on August 31, 2008

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Letting go of the struggle allows relief

By LifeCoachSonal

On April 16, 2018

In Uncategorized

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“I stopped trying to explain myself to those who cannot hear my explanation. That’s big.”

– Abraham-Hicks
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These words are simple, profound and so freeing. Letting go of the struggle can allow the relief one wants to feel. From this place of relief, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

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Do not look for love in all the wrong places

By LifeCoachSonal

On April 17, 2017

In Uncategorized

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“Don’t worry if someone doesn’t like you. Most people are struggling to like themselves.”

– Unknown

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When you expect love from people who are not even loving themselves in the first place, it’s like expecting a loan from someone who does not have money. Knowing this helps in feeling relief when you meet someone who doesn’t like you. This is not to justify but to understand and understanding is important in order for you to move on without negative emotion.

Some people may say “no! people who do not like me do love themselves. I do see them laughing and having fun”. Firstly, you have no means of knowing how they truly feel within. Secondly, you must understand that when someone loves himself/ herself, from that place of love and strength, whoever has the benefit of laying their eyes on this person feels that love if he/she is in the vibrational vicinity. From this place of feeling love and feeling good – you want to appreciate, you want to smile, you want to pass compliments, you have a spring in your step, you feel good, you feel ease, you feel joy, you are kind and gentle with yourself and with others. From this empowered place, you are of so much value to yourself and to others you want to be of value to.

So, when you love yourself, it’s easier to feel love for others too.

Even if you choose not to move away from someone who does not love you, understanding this will help in feeling better when with such people or while thinking about such people. In addition to focusing in this way, distracting yourself to topics which are easy for you to appreciate also helps in feeling better. It’s important to feel better because firstly, that is what you want. You want to feel better. Everything that you want in your life – better health, more money, better career, starting a new venture, a more nurturing relationship etc. is because you believe that you will feel better in the having of it. It is that feeling that you are targeting. Looking at a situation in a way which makes you feel relief, allows you to feel better in the first place (which is what you want) even though the situation may not have changed. You reconnect to your freedom – freedom from negative thoughts.

Secondly, as you feel better predominantly and consistently (irrespective of the situation you are in), you allow the law of attraction to match you up with more to feel even more better about. Your physical reality changes to be a match to your new, improved, predominant and consistent vibrations about a topic which earlier used to be painful to you. That is when you start living as the creator that you intended to be – creator of your life experiences. You reconnect to your power.

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Be happy, no matter what

By LifeCoachSonal

On December 12, 2016

In Uncategorized

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“To hold someone as your object of attention while you’re connected to Source Energy, is the greatest gift that anyone could give.

When you’re not happy, you don’t have anything to give. And so, what it literally means is be happy, because you cannot give anyone something that you do not feel.”

– Abraham

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Some people may ask how can I be happy when there is so much to feel unhappy about around me? The answer lies in the power of your focus. You can imagine the desires which things that you do not like have helped inspire within you, you can remember something which makes you feel good, you can think about what you find easy to appreciate, you can meditate, you can nap, you can take a relaxing walk next to nature, you can play with your pet, you can indulge in a hobby – so many ways in which you can feel better.

Initially, it may seem like an effort but as you practice feeling happy (no matter what) predominantly and consistently, it gets easier. As you feel happy more often (not always but predominantly and consistently) , you allow the law of attraction to match you up with more to feel even more good and then it gets even more easier to feel happy. The easier it gets, the easier it gets.

From this place of happiness when you give someone your attention, you bring the whole of you. You are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to from this place of strength.

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You are worthy of your love

By LifeCoachSonal

On October 19, 2016

In Uncategorized

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“When we constantly try to please everyone and be loved and accepted by all, we lose ourselves in the process. In the end, we lose everyone else’s approval as well because we are trying to be someone or something other than who we came here to be.”

– Anita Moorjani

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Feeling free and empowered in relationships

By LifeCoachSonal

On October 11, 2016

In Uncategorized

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“The purpose of relationship is not to have another who might complete you, but to have another with whom you might share your completeness.”

― Neale Donald Walsch

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When we look at the other person to buoy us up, we are in trouble. Instead of that, if we take out the time to feel good on our own and then approach the interactions we have in our relationship, we bring the whole of ourselves to the relationship.

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