Life Coaching with Sonal

In the early 20th century, scientists felt that mass and energy are closely linked. Albert Einstein gave the world the famous equation e = mc2, in which “e” stands for “energy,” “m” denotes “mass” and “c” is the speed of light.

This equation means energy and mass are interchangeable. Einstein realized that matter (i.e. mass) and energy are basically the same thing. In other words, matter is nothing but energy. That means all of us are energy including you and me. Anything which has mass is energy.

I want to take a minute to point out here that if we take any mass, at its basic level it is composed of atoms. If you take a human being, an animal or a table, all of them have mass (i.e. are matter) and at their sub atomic level, have protons, neutron and electrons. There is something very interesting about protons. Protons appear at random, stick around for a while and then vanish to reappear somewhere else and then again vanish. That means when you peek into an atom (of any mass), you will see a proton and then you will not see it. It appears and then disappears giving birth to the thought that you do not need something to create something (that means an effect does not always have to have a cause) or that conjuring something out of nothing is possible, at least for a short while.

Lets come back to energy. Energy is something we feel on an everyday basis. Even if we have never thought about energy, we know what it is. The sun’s energy is felt by us even though the sun is 93 millions miles away. We feel the energy of the wind. It is soft and gentle when a light cool breeze and wild when a tornado. When we stand on a beach and feel the waves, they are energy waves in water. In other words, water energy. We cannot see energy but we sure do feel it.

Our thoughts are also something which we cannot see but we can feel their energy. When we think some positive thoughts, we feel the emotions of hope, optimism, love, appreciation and these makes us feel good. When we think negative thoughts, we feel the emotions of hate, anger, fear, shame, guilt, resentment, revenge, despair or powerlessness and they make us feel negative. The energy of positive feelings and negative feelings is very different. We cannot see thoughts nor their energy but we sure can feel it.

Not only can we feel the energy but those around us can also. Have you met someone whose energy is so positive that just being around them made you feel better? And also, have you met someone whose energy was so negative that it sapped you of whatever energy you had before meeting them?

Another interesting thing about according to Einstein is that “energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be changed from one form to another.” So when there is positive or negative energy within us (because of our positive or negative feelings respectively), where does it go? Before affecting others (as written above), it affects our own body and therefore our lives. There are people who are thriving because of their consistent focus on seeing the positive side of things and there are people betraying themselves of their wellbeing by consistently focusing on the negative side of things. There is nothing right or wrong in either choice. Each one of us has a choice to live our lives the way we want to. The only question which one may want to ask is “are our choices serving us or not?”

Some people may say, “I have reasons to feel negative. I have evidence of things going wrong, I have proof, I have photographs, I have research etc”. Yes, when the physical reality is showing you what you do not want, it can be difficult to feel what you want to feel (i.e. feel good) but at the end of the day, the law of attraction states “like attracts like” – i.e. what you are feeling attracts more to feel the same. So, if you are predominantly feeling positive, you attract more to feel even more positive and if you are predominantly feeling negative, you attract more to feel negative. If you feel a little bit of positive and a little bit negative on an every day basis, what you get is also the same – i.e. a little bit of positive experiences and a little bit of negative experiences but if you want to reduce the negative experiences and increase the positive experiences, every time you find yourself thinking negative thoughts and therefore feeling negative, you may want to ask “what am I creating with these thoughts?” “What am I allowing the law of attraction to give me in my reality – experiences which will make me feel better (which is what I want to feel) or experiences which will make me feel negative?”

It may be an effort initially to change your predominant negative feelings to positive feelings because the law of attraction would have been giving you experiences to match up to your feelings (so if you have been allowing yourself to feel negative, you would have been getting more experiences to feel even more negative and will continue to do so till the time the momentum of your positive thoughts increase) and it will take a little time to change your physical reality but if you can continue to feel positive thoughts just for the sake of feeling good, you will enable the law of attraction to match you up with experiences which make you feel the same i.e. better. When you have had enough of feeling negative emotions and are desperately seeking relief, it will be easier for you to let go of the struggle within and start using any excuse to feel better. The question arises here that do we need to wait till we feel utterly exhausted with our negative emotions to start truly valuing good feeling thoughts? We need not wait and tolerate forever in order to start creating what we want. We always have a choice to start being the creators we intended to be at any point we choose.

The source within you, your inner being (or inner self or god or infinite intelligence or soul) feels only positive emotions – love, joy, freedom, empowered and appreciation. Your inner being loves and adores you. When you are feeling good, you are aligned to your inner being and when you are feeling negative, you are far away from what your inner being is feeling. You will always want to feel good as that is who you are, that is what your source is. Your emotions have value as they are an indicator of whether you are aligned or not to your inner being.

When someone praises you, you feel good as the source within you feels the same about you. When someone criticizes you, you feel bad because the source within you is still focused on how good you are but you are focusing on the criticism and hence feeling something which the source within you will never feel about you. Negative feelings are your indicator that you are not aligned to your source, that you are feeling something which your source does not feel. Whenever you are feeling negative, see that feeling for what it is indicating i.e. you are not feeling about that particular subject what the source within you feels for that subject. Once you become aware, all you need to do in order to feel better is to start focusing on something which is easy to appreciate and then you are in the vicinity of feeling what your source feels i.e. love, appreciation, joy, empowered and free. As you continue to focus on topics which are easy to appreciate for you, as you remember pleasant memories, as you imagine things the way you would like them to and feel good (i.e. as you daydream 🙂 ), as you indulge in activities which you like, as you talk to people you like, as you meditate – as you do any of these processes or any other to feel better, you start feeling incrementally better and finally you start feeling good and are now aligned to your source.

When you choose to focus on aligning with your inner being and therefore feeling good (or vice versa), you are not only feeling what you want to feel but you also allow the law of attraction to match you up with experiences which will make you feel even better. When you are feeling positive, you are moving in the direction of experiences which are a match to what you are feeling i.e. will make you feel even better and when you are feeling negative, you are moving in the direction of what will make you feel even more negative. The choice is always yours.

It’s an incremental process. The first day, you might be able to distract yourself from your negative feeling thoughts and focus on positive feeling thoughts and therefore, feel better only for 30 seconds in the entire 24 hours; the second day, it could be 45 seconds; the second week, it would be one minute daily; the third week, it could be five minutes daily and so on. At times, you might find that you have allowed yourself to feel positive much less than the earlier day. It’s okay. You can always start feeling better from the next day for a longer duration. You never miss the bus. Use any excuse to feel better. It could be a walk next to nature or listening to soothing music or talking to a supportive and trustworthy friend or meditating or dancing or travelling or writing a journal of all the positive things in your life or playing with your children etc. Choose whatever process resonates with you.

This process of feeling better will depend on two things – what is happening within you and how committed you are to thinking good feelings thoughts consciously and consistently on an everyday basis. The suggestion is that, initially, create these feel good moments just for the relief you so much want from the negative thoughts and just to feel that feeling which you want so much. Even if you can’t feel good immediately, it’s fine. In fact chances are that you would not be able to feel good immediately as the momentum of the negative thoughts will need to be replaced by the momentum of the positive thoughts. The changes will be small. As long as you feel a little better than earlier, you are moving in the direction of feeling what you want to feel. As your reality starts to incrementally change, it will be easier for you to predominantly feel good as now your reality will be easier to appreciate.

We want what we want because we believe that in the having of it, we will feel better. Its that feeling (feeling better) which we are targeting. If we can through any excuse feel better in the first place, then what we want will come to us easily. Why swim upstream when you can swim downstream and get what you want? There are people who have got what they wanted but in the journey has been so arduous for them that its taken a heavy toll on their lives (sometimes, their health has suffered, sometimes their relationships, sometimes their abundance and sometimes – all of these have suffered). By consciously and consistently creating more feel good moments for us, we start leveraging the power of the universe and as Abraham say “one who is aligned is more powerful than millions who are not”. Not only do we feel better but we allow the law of attraction to get us more to feel even better.

From this place of feeling strong, we are of value to ourselves and also to those whom we may want to be of value to. From this place of strength rather than lack, our action is so much more complete and whole.

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