Life Coaching with Sonal

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Forgiveness, ease and freedom

“Today I decided to forgive you. Not because you apologized, or because you acknowledged the pain that you caused me, but because my soul deserves peace.”

– Najwa Zebian


What is forgiveness? Forgiveness, in very simple words, is when you decide to let go of the pain and be the joyful, appreciative and loving person that you actually are. When you forgive, you are not saying that the act committed (or the series of acts committed) are justified or okay. They never will be.

When you forgive, you are letting go of all the anger, the pain and the resentment and thereby, allowing in the joy, the appreciation, the love that you so want to feel. Don’t you like it when you are in joy? Don’t you feel good when you find yourself appreciating things/people/places/experiences? Don’t you find love such a wonderful feeling? The answer to these questions is yes and you do that because that’s who you are, that’s who your inner self is. When you hold yourself in anger (however justified it may be), you are far away from your true inner self and you feel pain in that separation. You don’t like it but it’s so difficult to let go as the resentment feels so justified.

Yes, forgiveness can be difficult but living in anger, resentment, pain, hatred every time you think about it – isn’t that difficult too?

You may decide to continue the relationship or continue the relationship and also reach out for help or you may decide to either temporarily or permanently end the relationship and firstly get to a place where you feel safe … – whatever you choose as per what gives you the most relief (i.e. as per your path of least resistance which only you know), what is more important is what you feel within.

Forgiveness means letting go of the pain, the anger and the resentment in your heart and feeling the relief that you so much want to feel. Forgiveness means looking at the situation, whenever you feel ready to, in a way which makes you feel relief and therefore, closer to the ease you want to feel. Forgiveness is your gift to yourself.

“Forgive because you deserve it.”

― Abraham-Hicks


Forgiveness can come up many times in our unique and beautiful journeys as the day-to-day experiences that make the tapestry of our lives are of great significance to us. Through the life coaching work that I do with my clients and what I see around makes me feel that it can be of help to remind ourselves of its value.

In the situations that one feels the desire to think about it, usually it does not happen in one swoop. It can be felt in one go by some people in some situations but generally it’s a process based on one’s path of least resistance. Initiating forgiveness by keeping one’s path of least resistance in mind makes it easier.

Affirming, for everyone, more and more moments of letting go of the resistance and letting in of relief, of ease, of feeling better than earlier. I feel the year – “2020” signifies something on the lines of a version “2.0” of ourselves for many of us who are willing and ready to start the process of letting go of the struggle, the resistance, the pain and letting in of the relief, the fresh air, the song in our hearts….letting in of the feeling of being empowered and free.

Affirming for everyone a beautiful 2020 filled with moments of ease, peace and joy!

You can deliberately allow life experiences which others who are looking at your life would call miracles

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“There is force in the universe which, if we permit it, will flow through us and produce miraculous results”

– Mahatma Gandhi

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The value of being prudent about the people in your life

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Sharing a very empowering excerpt from Dr Christiane Northrup’s book “Goddesses never age”…
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“And when it comes to your tribe, be judicious about who is in it. The people around you can help you reconnect to the life force and flourish or they can drain you and depress you….

You have to turn the volume down on some relationships, or even let go of them and commit to bringing in new people into your life who will be more supportive of you. The good news is that the universe will provide you with new members of your “tribe”, sometimes in the most extraordinary ways. Once you make the change inside of you, your energy will shift; those who resonate with you energetically will gravitate your way and those who don’t will start to fall away. Years after transforming the way I practiced and thought about medicine, I find that I am a magnet for people who believe in inspiring women to experience wellness through feeling connected with their joy and their life force. I regularly meet people I want to add to my tribe.

There are people who truly want to vibrate at a higher frequency and be happier and lighter in mood and attitude. But some people who will be attracted to your lightness of being will bring to the table their old, negative emotional patterns. They will love what they get from you, but they will drain you because they are not committed to becoming lighter themselves. They are emotional vampires. You might not realize that they are sucking you dry because they seem to be so nice and supportive at first. They may not realize what they are doing to you. But in time, you will see that whenever you interact with them, you come away feeling as if someone just took a pint of blood from you. I have felt as though I had to get down on the floor and go to sleep after interacting with certain individuals. In fact, sometimes I feel this way just from reading an e-mail from one of them! Those people are mostly gone from my life at this point but it sure took a while to figure out this pattern.

As you begin to tap into your own vitality, you have to be cautious about letting people drain it out of you as quickly as you fill yourself up. Encourage family and friends who want what you have got to get it for themselves and stop seeing you as their source.

In fact, people can energetically hook into you so strongly that if you stop, focus and tune in, you can actually sense the cord of energy that goes out to them from you.”
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Christiane Northrup, M.D., is a visionary pioneer and leading authority in the field of women’s wellness. A board-certified OB/GYN physician, Dr. Northrup graduated from Dartmouth Medical School and did her residency at Tufts New England Medical Center in Boston. She was also an assistant clinical professor of OB/GYN at Maine Medical Center for 20 years.

Dr. Northrup has spent her life as an advocate for women’s health and wellness, first as a practicing OB/GYN physician and now as an internationally respected writer and speaker. She writes, “I spent the first half of my life studying everything that can go wrong with a woman’s body and figuring out how to fix it. Now, I’m devoted to teaching women everything that can go right, so that vibrant health can become their daily reality.”

Dr. Northrup is the author of two New York Times best-selling books, Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom and The Wisdom of Menopause, which have transformed women’s approach to health and understanding of their sacred bodies and processes. In 2005, Mother-Daughter Wisdom, her third book, was Amazon’s #1 book of the year in both parenting and mind-body health. These books have been translated into 24 languages.

In The Secret Pleasures of Menopause and The Secret Pleasures of Menopause Playbook, Dr. Northrup outlines the crucial link between health and pleasure. Her children’s book, Beautiful Girl, brings her positive message to the youngest of girls. Her newest book, Goddesses Never Age: The Secret Prescription for Radiance, Vitality, and Wellbeing will inspire women (and men) with an entirely different mindset about what it means to grow older.

Dr Northrup has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, the Today Show, NBC Nightly News, The View, Rachael Ray, Good Morning America, 20/20, and The Dr. Oz Show. Her Internet radio program Flourish! is broadcast weekly on Hay House Radio. Dr. Northrup has also hosted eight successful public television specials.
In 2013, Dr. Northrup was named one of Reader’s Digest’s “100 Most Trusted People in America.” Don’t miss any of Dr. Northrup’s cutting-edge information. Join her tribe on Facebook, Twitter, in her e-newsletter, on Flourish! and at www.drnorthrup.com.

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