Life Coaching with Sonal

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Feeling relief when in fear

What fear is …..is a feeling I have when I am holding a desire in my conscious attention and a belief that contradicts it in the same moment.

– Abraham-Hicks
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Examples of the above – desiring financial prosperity and believing that it will be difficult for you to get it or desiring a recovery from a particular illness and having a belief that the recovery you desire is rare and difficult. Basically, fear is the negative emotion (or one of the negative emotions) that you feel when you think the thought – “I can’t have what I want.”

The good news is that if you want and if you feel ready to, you can change your beliefs in order to align them with your desires as per your path of least resistance 🙂

You do that by soothing yourself thought by thought, moment by moment, as per your own beautiful, unique and individual pace whenever you feel ready to do so. Initially distracting yourself to topics which are easy for you to appreciate helps in feeling relief more often and then from this place of relief and strength, if one wants and feels ready to, one can soothe oneself on the topic one feels fear on.

Of course, pre-paving on a daily basis helps in not only reducing the frequency of life experiences which have the potential for you to choose fear but it also reduces the intensity of the fear that you feel when in them and hence helps in your regaining your balance easily as compared to before you started pre-paving. Pre-paving means allowing more feel-good moments (i.e. moments in which you are feeling relief, moments in which you are feeling good, moments in which you have a spring in your step, moments in which you have a song in your heart, moments in which you are relaxed, positive emotion feeling moments…) and as you do so predominantly and consistently, you develop vibrational muscles, you develop sea legs, you develop good shock absorbers in life. The action you feel inspired to from this place of strength is so much more than from a place of lack. This is not the only way to react to fear but it is an easy and effective way.

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“When you fear anything, don’t take the next step or do something you’re afraid to do. There are a lot of people that will say: “Oh just push through it, and when you push through it, then you’ll get over being afraid of it.”

And we encourage you to do instead is to come into alignment with what you want first by finding the thoughts that feel good, because fear is there for a reason.

The fear is saying: “there’s resistance within you, that is going to attract some of what you want and some of what you don’t want.

Why not clean it up before you take action?

-Abraham-Hicks

 

Bless you fear, thank you for pointing out that I just blocked something that I want, with a bogus habit of thought, that doesn’t apply and has no relevance to where I am now and where I’m going. THAT’S the nugget we’ve been reaching for, that’s the taking thought beyond which it has been before, that’s why we want you to make peace with your negative emotion, that’s why we want you to understand what it is, that’s why we want you to stop standing in a place being mad at yourself or someone else, feeling negative emotion.

Bless you fear. You’re reminding me that I’ve got some vibrational work to do. You’re not here to remind me that I can’t have what I want, you’re just here to remind me that I’m not ready for what I want yet.

Thank you negative emotion for reminding me of amplifying the thought, that there is something that I keenly want, to which I’m not in the vibrational vicinity of, but I have the ability to close that Gap with a little bit of effort.”

– Abraham-Hicks

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The wound has value

 

“The wound is the place where the light enters you.”

– Rumi
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It does not have to be this way but for most people who allow themselves to reconnect in their own, beautiful, unique and individual way with who they are, with the light that is within as well as surrounding them at all times, the clear desire to heal the wound, the strong desire for well-being, the sharp desire for feeling free and happy is the reason to start allowing the reconnection. The wound helps in making this desire clearer, stronger and sharper as compared to before the wound. When one has a strong desire and allows it in one’s physical reality by being a match to it vibrationally, one starts living life empowered and free.

This is the value of the wound. It can help in choosing to allow unconditional happiness more often and when one allows and practices unconditional happiness every day throughout the day, one allows the feeling of empowerment, freedom, worthiness, joy, love and appreciation, predominantly and consistently. We are pure positive energy and we love the moments in which we are feeling the essence of who we are, moments where we are “in the flow” or what athletes call – “being in the zone”. Composers, authors, artists, inventors etc. have long realized that if they are not in the flow, nothing flows.

The wound may be painful but it does have value in helping us grow beyond where we were into a place of true freedom – i.e. freedom from needing conditions to be met before we can be happy. Yes, it is a practice and that is the work for all of us on a daily basis – choosing a better feeling thought on a moment to moment, thought to thought basis (on the topic of the wound, if we feel ready to or by distracting ourselves to any other topic which is easy for us to appreciate in that moment) as per our own beautiful and unique pace, our individual path of least resistance. The journey is eternal.

One of the awesome results of this unconditional happiness is that we allow the law of attraction to match us up with more to be even more happy about as we are already in the same or similar vibration/feeling predominantly and consistently (not always but predominantly and consistently). Even if one can feel positive emotions 55% of the time every day, one would have managed to allow a substantial change in one’s predominant and consistent vibrations and hence of what one allows to manifest in one’s life. The better it gets, the better it gets.

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Letting go of the struggle

“The less you try to get others to understand your point of view, the clearer your vibration will be and the better you will feel because you’re really asking them to do something that they’re not wired to do.”

– Abraham-Hicks
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It feels nice when others understand you the way you want to be understood but if your happiness depends on other people and their understanding you, you are setting yourself up for frustration. Even the ones who love you and understand you can’t understand you all the time in the way you want to be understood. You may like to consider being happy, no matter what because if you are waiting for the condition to be satisfied (i.e. the condition of their getting you, their understanding you) before you allow yourself to feel positive emotions, you may have a journey which has more struggle than ease. Nothing wrong with that as negative emotion also has value (it helps you give birth to desires and amend earlier desires) but when you can have a journey which is both easy and effective predominantly and consistently, you could consider letting go of the struggle around the topic of other people understanding you.

You don’t let go of your desire to be understood but when you let go of the negative thoughts around this topic, you allow the law of attraction to match you up with people who are more understanding and accepting of others, people who are predominantly and consistently in a place of love and compassion (they are able to extend their understanding and compassion even to those whose actions may not seem justified to them). It’s so interesting that when you decide to not care (not in defiance or any other negative emotion but from a place of having made peace with this topic) and thereby, feel the relief that comes with it, you allow more experiences which make you feel even more of the relief/ ease/ good-feeling place that you are in. You allow more of the people who are a match to your new thoughts/vibrations/feelings on this topic – i.e. who make it easy for you to choose feeling ease. You start allowing the desire (of the kind of life experiences that you want) that life helped inspire within you. As you practice allowing better feeling thoughts, you allow your desire to manifest easily and in its full glory. The easier it gets, the easier it gets.

In all this practice (as per your individual and beautiful pace), if you do meet someone who is not accepting or does not understand you, chances of you choosing a knee-jerk reaction are less as you are practicing your feel-good (or feel better) muscle every day. As you practice predominantly and consistently, due the place of well-being, ease and strength that you are already in (before meeting someone who does not accept or understand you), chances are also high that even if you do choose to have knee-jerk reaction (you are human and it’s of value to be kind and gentle with yourself), you will be able to reconnect to your alignment easily as compared to before you started consciously, predominantly and consistently practicing better feeling thoughts about this topic. You will have better shock absorbers in life.

When you leave others out of the equation (i.e. irrelevant to your focusing on better feeling thoughts), you reconnect to your freedom, to empowerment, to joy, to unconditional alignment. From this place of strength, you are of tremendous value to yourself and to those that you would like to be of value to. At the end of the day, it is a choice – even when it seems that we have no choice (this thought is also something that you choose, either by default or consciously). There is no right or wrong in this. Even though others can agree or disagree with whatever choice you make, it is your own, beautiful, unique and individual journey.

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Loving yourself just the way you are has value

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“I love myself exactly as I am. I no longer wait to be perfect in order to love myself.”

– Louise Hay

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Some may say – “if I accept myself and love myself just the way I am, I will never grow into more! I will never feel the desire to grow and expand more as per my potential! I may just get stuck where I am.” I totally understand and respect where these thoughts are coming from. It may seem like that but you can always grow into more with love in your heart. For example, if you are unwell, you can regain your health with mostly, hope in your heart or with mostly, helplessness. What you are feeling predominantly and consistently (not always but predominantly and consistently) during your recovery will make a world of a difference to the results you get. Now even science is recognizing something healers across the centuries knew – the mind-body connection.

We are ever-evolving beings. “More” is our essence and you can move towards the more that you want with love in your heart for life, for yourself. As Abraham-Hicks say, the best vibrational place to be in – “deeply satisfied where you are and eager for more”. Of course, when you are focused on a topic which makes it tempting for you to feel negative emotion, to have a knee-jerk reaction – that negative emotion helps you in giving birth to new desires and/or amending earlier desires and therefore, even though it may be painful, it has value as it leads to more clarity for you (of what you do not want and therefore, of what you want). At the same time, coming to know or realizing that you don’t have to unhappy where you are in order to want more can be so empowering. It’s about being at a place where you are already feeling the emotions that you want to feel, predominantly and consistently and from there, you want more – more clarity, more moments of confidence, more ideas, more understanding of your beingness, more flowing of thought from a place of feeling positive emotions, more kind people, more abundance, more insight, more moments of unconditional alignment/happiness, more unconditional love towards yourself and for others……

While allowing more of what we want in our lives, it could happen that some of us may feel moments where we are overwhelmed. It is okay to feel moments like this as we are human. It’s of value to be kind and gentle with ourselves. The feeling of being overwhelmed is an indicator that you feel that you have lots to do and have not lined up energy before offering action. If this happens, the suggestion is to soothe yourself and/or distract yourself to something which is easy for you to appreciate. As you feel better (in ways which are easy for you to feel relief), you line up energy and then you can offer the action you feel inspired to offer from that place of alignment/ strength rather than from the earlier place of lack.

You may have noticed that when you feel overwhelmed, you also feel an impulse to take a break or rest which is you listening to your inner guidance (as that period of rest helps in you feeling the relief that you so much want to feel when overwhelmed). You may have also noticed after resting for some time, you start feeling bored and again feel the desire/impulse to do something – this is because our essence (i.e. “more”) calls us… the universe is ever-expanding into more and we are part of the universe so that is our essence too. Of course, all of us have the freedom to choose the more that we want – some may like more ease at the particular point that they are in vibrationally like for example, relaxing at the beach and some like more thrill like being on a roller coaster (both are positive frequencies/vibrations/feelings but are different from each other) and that is so empowering – i.e. the freedom to choose…As Abraham-Hicks say – “you are so free, you can choose bondage”…

When we are happy where we are, when we make peace with where we are (even though we may not have liked it to start with) we allow the more that we want (from where we are) to manifest in our lives “easily” and in its “full potential”. This reminds me of the book title – “Good to Great” by Jim Collins. From good to great and then from great to even greater and so on – ever-expanding into more, always at the leading edge of one’s potential. It is not the only way to live what we want but it is an easy and effective way to live the life experiences that we want, predominantly and consistently.

If you can find ease, if you can connect to the well-being within you and surrounding you, if you can feel relief, if you can feel good, if you can love and appreciate yourself just the way you are, if you can focus in a way which makes you feel positive emotions – you start living life as you intended to live – in a place of joy, freedom, love, appreciation and worthiness, predominantly and consistently. Not that you will never have moments of negative emotion (these moments have value as you give birth to new desires and/or amend your previous desires when you are in a place of negative emotion – when you see illness, you want to see health; when you see poverty, you want to see prosperity; when you see a rude person, you want to see a kind person – moments of negative emotion help you know what you “do not want” and therefore, what you “do want” in a much more stronger, clearer way than before that moment of negative emotion and that clarity helps you in the process of allowing the kind of life experiences that you want….negative emotions may be painful but have value) but because of your practice on a daily basis (i.e. focusing on positive feeling thoughts), chances are high that you would have managed to acquire vibrational muscle and therefore, managed to tilt the balance towards positive feeling thoughts on a more predominant and consistent basis.

The law of attraction states – “like attracts like”. When you focus mostly on thoughts which make it easy for you to feel good, you feel positive emotions, predominantly and consistently and when you are in a place of positive emotions more than negative emotions on a daily basis, you allow this powerful law to match you up with more to feel good. You may be aware of the problems that you feel you have but because of this place of feeling good more often (i.e. a place of strength), you will be able to focus on your problems with a solution-oriented approach. The feeling or the frequency of the solution is different from the frequency of the problem. You want the solution to your problem because you feel that in the having of the solution, you will feel better. It is that feeling that you believe you will feel once you have the solution that you are really targeting (through the solution). If you can feel better even though the solution has not yet manifested, you allow it to manifest easily and in all its glory. Even if you can feel positive emotions 55% of the time on a daily basis, you would have managed to bring about a substantial change in your vibrations and therefore, of what manifests in your life.

If you are at 107.9 FM and want to listen to 106.7 FM, you have to change the dial. The frequencies are different. In the same way, the frequency of the problem (i.e. what you feel when you focus on just the problem) and the frequency of the solution are different. If you want the solution, you may consider feeling the same frequency or in the vicinity of that frequency. You may be aware of the problem but from the periphery so that you are not so wrapped up in it that you can’t see the solution. When you practice being in the same or similar frequency of the solution that you want, you allow the law of attraction to match you up with ideas, impulses and rendezvouses which allow the solution to be realized by you, the words you feel inspired to offer are from a place of being a match to the solution you want, the path lights up. You reconnect to your power.

Choosing feel-good thoughts is a practice, no doubt but just like learning a new skill or a computer program, it gets easier as you go along. By initially practicing thinking about topics which are easy for you to feel good about, you make this process of acquiring “vibrational muscle” easier. When you are mostly in this good-feeling place every day (not always but predominantly and consistently…as written earlier, pain has value as it helps you expand and grow beyond what you were before you felt it …at the same time, positive feeling emotions are what you want to feel more often as that is who you are – pure positive energy…you like it when you feel worthy, love, appreciation, joy, free as these emotions or feelings or frequencies are what your essence is – pure, positive energy), chances are high that you will be able to look at any topic (even if it was painful for you earlier) in a way which makes you feel better and thereby, see the solution “easily”. In most situations, you will see that because of your new and improved vibrational place, the topic which was painful has resolved itself as you have allowed the law of attraction to match you up with the solution but just in case it hasn’t, chances are high that now you will be able to look at it in a way which makes you feel relief, in a solution-oriented way. The suggestion here would be to look at a topic which was painful in a different way only when you feel ready to do so. It’s your own beautiful, unique, individual journey.

By feeling positive emotions predominantly and consistently, you are “in the flow” or what athletes call “being in the zone” (or in its vicinity) more often on an everyday basis and by doing so, you allow yourself to become a match to the solutions you want in a way which is easy and allows the full potential of the solution to be realized by you. You allow yourself to be the creator that you intended to be. You can allow the more that you want in your life with hope, ease and optimism (and as you move forward practicing your focus and therefore feeling positive emotions more often – eagerness, enthusiasm, appreciation…) in your heart. You may not be able to feel absolutely enthusiastic when you begin practicing your focus but even if you can feel just a little bit better every day from where you are, it makes the journey much easier. You have a good time not only when you allow the manifestation you want in your life in all its glory but you also have a good time on the way to that manifestation. Feeling positive emotions, wherever you are, has value.

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The secret to what you want

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“The greatest gift you can give to any partner – past, present or future is to be so connected with who You-Truly-Are that they are irrelevant to your connection. And when they are irrelevant to your connection, then you are going to have a really good time together.”

– Abraham-Hicks

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Who you truly are is pure positive energy. That is why you love feeling positive emotions. Negative emotions are also part of your guidance but it’s the positive emotions that you love because you are pure positive energy. Anything that you want (a better career, a more loving relationship, moving to another place, more money, better health, bigger house, starting a new venture etc) is because you believe you will feel better in the having of it. It is that positive emotion that you are targeting. And when you can show yourself that you do have the ability to feel good through the power of your focus (not always but predominantly and consistently), no matter what (even when what you want hasn’t manifested in your physical reality) – you feel good (which is the reason you want what you want) and you allow the law of attraction to match you up with more to make it easy for you to feel good even further. The journey to what you want becomes “easy” and what you want manifests in its “full potential”. You start living life as the creator you intended to be – creator of the life experiences that you desire. You reconnect to your power.

In the moments that you are connected to who you truly are, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

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Happy Holidays!

 

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Happy Holidays!

Affirming joy for everyone 🙂

 

“The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.”

– Oprah Winfrey

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You are powerful beyond measure

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“You’ve always had

the power my dear,

you just had to

learn it for yourself.”

–  The Wizard Of Oz

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Babies are born knowing who they are – love, joy, worthy, free and powerful. They may not be able to articulate it in these words but they know it. You can see it in the sheer joy they take in discovering the world around, the love they have for their bodies, the curiosity they have for the world, the enthusiasm for life in their eyes. Babies are so thrilled and delighted in their beingness. When children are told that they are wrong or what they have done is wrong and therefore, others around them are not happy, have you seen their disapproval at the criticism coming their way? It’s like their entire being says to them that they are good and they just don’t like the criticism and disapproval coming their way.

As they grow up, it takes a lot of convincing for many of them to learn that there are things in them which others do not like, that they need to prove their worthiness by doing some things which then others will decide their worthiness upon, that the world does not revolve around them, that they are not all that special as they think they are and similar non-nurturing thoughts/beliefs….. Not everyone around them judges them but there are many who do as they grow up into children, teenagers and then adults. By the time they reach adulthood or even teenage in many cases, many have lost their connection with who they are, with the essence of who they are.

This is not to blame those around for what they said or did as they were doing their best from their knowledge and understanding. This is also not to justify what they did and/or said but just to understand as understanding is important in order to soothe oneself, in order to feel relief, in order to feel better and feeling better is what each one of us wants. It’s important to soothe ourselves in order to move ahead with love in our hearts.

Why is feeling love so important to us? As written earlier – that is our essence – love, appreciation, joy, free, worthiness and empowered. We love it when we feel love. We love feeling who we truly are. Anything that we want – a more nurturing relationship or more money or better health or a bigger car or a better house or starting a new venture or a promotion at work etc. is all because we believe that we will feel better in the having of it. It is that positive feeling that we are targeting because that is our core, our essence.

Feeling free and powerful does not mean vanity or arrogance. Louise Hay said that vanity or arrogance is always from a place of fear. Being connected with who you are means genuine love and appreciation for this beautiful life and for the magnificent creation of life that you are. From this of place of strength, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

The good news is that we can reconnect, predominantly and consistently, to who we are whenever we want to and feel ready to do so and when we do, we reconnect to our freedom, worthiness and power. It is a sight to behold 🙂

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The desire to feel loved

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“I think the biggest disease the world suffers from in this day and age is the disease of people feeling unloved.”

– Diana, Princess of Wales

 

As I see it, feeling unloved also encompasses the feeling of not being understood, of not being acknowledged and appreciated, the feeling of not being cherished, the feeling of not being accepted for who one is…..There are many people in this world who are feeling unloved and want to feel acknowledged, loved, cherished and appreciated. This post is long as I feel that this topic is of value to so many of us who are asking for what we want and feel ready for what we have been asking for.

Even though it may seem as digressing from the above quote but here, it will be of value to take a moment to see at how Abraham-Hicks look at the word “disease” – a lack of ease. Looking at disease in this way (i.e. as lack of ease) can be soothing and provide clarity, thereby leading to a place where one is feeling hopeful and eventually, empowered. To take this a little further, now even science has proved the mind-body connection, something which healers across the centuries have known.

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Coming back to the above quote –

I believe that we are uplifters and it feel great to uplift others. When others express their love for us, it makes us feel that we have uplifted them with our presence, our being, with who we are. This feels good to us but if we are dependent on other people’s reaction in order to feel good, then when they do not love us (which can happen…even people who love us can’t feel love for us all the time and I understand and respect that….we are all human), we feel negative emotion as we desire their love (we like the feeling in us when they are uplifted because of us and express it with the appreciation and love they feel for us as they are uplifted) and we observe the absence of what we desire (i.e. the absence of their love for us in that moment). Even though negative emotion has value, it is painful.

Expecting love and appreciation from people who don’t love you is like asking for a loan from people who do not have any money. When they start loving themselves, when they are feeling good (even before they met you that day), when they are in a place of happiness and strength mostly, no matter what, they will find it easier to love you and others. You can see that in yourself too. When you are feeling good, you want to express love and appreciation, you want to smile, you want to compliment. When you are feeling negative emotion, expressing love and appreciation is not something which is the first thing on your mind or something that comes readily to you. It’s the same with most of the other people too.

Instead of looking at others to love you, if you could feel good about yourself where you are, if you could be easy with yourself, if you could be gentle with yourself, if you could take out time to nurture and support yourself, if you could focus on thoughts which make it easy for you to feel relief, if you could take out time to do what makes your heart sing, if you could like yourself, if you could love yourself – firstly, you will feel the love you want and secondly, you will allow the law of attraction to match you with more and more people who also love you, with more and more experiences which make it easy for you to see how loved you are. You will reconnect to your freedom….true freedom.

“Give yourself the love you seek and the universe will send people who match it.”

– Abraham-Hicks

When you start loving yourself, either the people in your life, who as of now do not love you the way you want them to will change to be a match to your new and improved vibrations. If they cannot change, (despite you practicing your new and improved vibrations every day throughout the day) which does happen in many cases as some people are too far away from feeling alignment within themselves as of now (and it is okay…we all have our own beautiful, individual journeys and we get to choose, either consciously or unconsciously the pace and the details of our journey), they will leave your experience and others will take their place who are a match to your new and improved vibrations. If they cannot leave and do not change, they will only meet you on days and in moments that they are a match to your vibrations (and there will be such moments however few). Even if you stay in the same house, you will zig-zag out of each others experience and rendezvous only when you are a match (provided you have been practicing your new and improved vibrations and are “stable” there, predominantly and consistently). If you want to have more people in your life who love you, you may like to consider loving yourself first, nurturing yourself, being kind to yourself.

Louise Hay spoke about loving ourselves in a beautiful way. She said that loving ourselves is not vanity or arrogance. That is always fear.  Loving ourselves is really respecting and appreciating this incredible magnificent being that we are.

Some questions can arise here – how does loving ourselves play out, what does it look like, how can we go about it? The suggestion would be that firstly, start with appreciating, predominantly and consistently, the topics which are easy for you to appreciate. Also, distract yourself from topics which make it easy for you to feel negative emotions by focusing on something which is easy for you to feel good about. Distraction has huge power. It may be an effort initially but it does get easier as you go along practicing your good feeling thoughts. It’s like learning a new skill or a new computer program. Initially, it can be an effort but as one goes along, it gets easier. The easier it gets, the easier it gets.

As you do so throughout the day, every day, chances are high that you will reach a place where you are feeling better and stronger, predominantly and consistently and therefore, can with relative ease turn your loving gaze toward yourself and find things easily to love and appreciate within you. You may like to introduce changes in you and your life but changes introduced from a place of love are more easy, effective and powerful than from a place of criticism. The time taken to reach this place of love and strength will differ from person to person (which is absolutely okay…I understand and respect that) as we all have our own unique, individual, beautiful journeys. I would also suggest to be kind and gentle with yourself while on this journey – if ever you find yourself wallowing in negative emotion (you may be right in feeling the negative emotion but you are not happy and happy is what you want to be), that is okay. You are human. As you become aware that you have been thinking negative emotion and want to change those negative feeling thoughts to positive feeling thoughts, you can distract yourself to any topic which is easy for you to feel relief about whenever you feel ready to do so.

Though at this place of love and strength, chances are high that you may feel ready to love yourself but if you still do not feel ready, that is okay. As I wrote earlier, everyone has their own beautiful, unique journey. You can continue feeling good by focusing on topics and in ways which are easy for you to feel good about and whenever you want to and feel ready, you can look at yourself and feel love and appreciation for the divine creation of life that you are.

Why would you want to feel positive emotion whether it be with regard to yourself or with regard to any other topic? You would because that is who you are – you are pure positive energy and even though at times, you may choose to focus in a way which makes you feel negative emotion, you will always feel the call of who you are. When you feel that call and you do not go toward that positive feeling vibrational place, i.e. you do not focus in a way which makes you feel better, you feel negative emotion. Negative emotion is the indicator that you are not aligned with who you truly are. You love feeling love, you love feeling joy, you love feeling empowered, you love feeling free, you love it when you are appreciating. Anything that you want in your life – more money, a more nurturing relationship, better health, a bigger car, a better house, a great career, starting a new venture etc is because you believe that you will feel better in the having of it. It is that feeling that you are targeting because that is who you are – joy, love, appreciation, worthy, free and empowered.

A question can arise here – why do we disconnect to this love for ourselves? Have you seen babies? They love themselves just the way they are. I remember seeing a video of Louise Hay in which she spoke about how babies never criticize their body.  She asks, “have you ever seen a baby say “my hips are too big”? 🙂 ….She further goes on to say – “babies are just thrilled and delighted that they have a body. They rejoice in it. They love themselves. They love their toes. They love everything about themselves.”

As we are growing up, we experience being judged which for the first few times, feels shocking. Have you ever seen children express their disapproval when being criticized? They know in their core (to which they are still connected) that they are pure positive energy and when someone is telling them something else apart from this, they know it just does not feel good. It takes a lot of convincing to separate most of us, as are growing up, from that “knowing”. Some of us manage to hold on to that “knowing” and most of those who hold on to this knowing are called as stubborn by others 🙂 . Who others? Others who are not feeling good mostly because if they were, they would find it easier to love and appreciate. This is not to blame the others around us as we were growing up. They were doing the best they could from their knowledge and understanding. It’s important to understand where they were in order to soothe ourselves if we are ready to be soothed. Understanding them is not to justify what they said and/or did but it helps in soothing ourselves. Soothing yourself is part of loving yourself.

The good news is that now as adults we can feel what we want to feel (even when we are not where we want to be…i.e. there is a gap between our desire and where we are currently). We can feel positive emotion, no matter what. We can do so by the power of our focus. We have much more ability to feel good than what we at times give ourselves credit for. Yes, it does take practice. Baby steps every day throughout the day is all it takes. Feeling good is not like a college degree that once we have it, it’s ours forever. It is a moment to moment choice through the day, every day. Even for people who feel ecstasy on a regular basis, there is more.

When we show ourselves that we can feel what we want to feel (even though we do not yet have what we want….whether it be the feeling love for ourselves or a physical manifestation), we reconnect to our freedom. True Freedom is freedom from negative thoughts. When we reconnect to our freedom and practice our connection/alignment to who we truly are every day throughout the day, firstly, we feel good more often and secondly, we also allow the law of attraction to match us up with all that we want “easily” and “in its full potential.” You start living as the creator you intended to be – creator of the kind of life experiences that you want, predominantly and consistently.

Even if you can feel better (from wherever you are) 55% of the time, you would have managed to allow a substantial change to your vibrations and hence of what comes to you in your life. It could be that from where you are, feeling enthusiasm (on a particular topic or many topics which are important to you) may be too much of an expectation as you may not feel ready for it and that is okay. You are human. Instead of trying to jump so far, you could take baby steps to a little more relief every day and as you do that, you get ready to be ready to be ready for what you want to easily manifest in all it’s glory in your physical reality. As you continue to feel a little more relief every day (in a way in which it is easy for you to feel relief), you start walking toward feeling more and more positive emotions – from relief to more relief to even more relief to ease to hope to optimism to positive expectation to happiness and further on to passion, joy, feeling free, empowered and worthy, predominantly and consistently. This is an awesome place to be living life from.

Feeling good is worth a shot 🙂

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You and you

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“The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself.”

― Diane von Furstenberg

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The relationship which is the most important is between you and you – the physical you (the one you can see, hear, touch – i.e. interpret with your physical senses) and the non-physical you (what you can feel but can’t see – some call it soul, some call it inner being, some call it source energy, some call it universe, some call it infinite intelligence – all are referring to the essence of who you are – pure positive energy).

When you are feeling good, no matter what, you are aligned with who you are and from this place of strength, two things happen –  firstly, you experience feel-good moments, you feel happy (which is what you want to feel) and secondly, as you continue feeling good predominantly and consistently, you allow the law of attraction to match you up with the abundance (abundance of clarity, abundance of strength, abundance of alignment, abundance of well-being, abundance of vitality, abundance of freedom, abundance of worthiness, abundance of confidence, abundance of love and appreciation, abundance of prosperity etc.) that you want  “easily” and “in its full potential”.

“One who is in alignment is more powerful than millions who are not.”

– Abraham-Hicks

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When you align with who you are, you reconnect to your power and freedom

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“We are stars wrapped in skin. The light you are seeking has always been within.”

– unknown

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