Life Coaching with Sonal

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Be happy, no matter what

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“To hold someone as your object of attention while you’re connected to Source Energy, is the greatest gift that anyone could give.

When you’re not happy, you don’t have anything to give. And so, what it literally means is be happy, because you cannot give anyone something that you do not feel.”

– Abraham

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Some people may ask how can I be happy when there is so much to feel unhappy about around me? The answer lies in the power of your focus. You can imagine the desires which things that you do not like have helped inspire within you, you can remember something which makes you feel good, you can think about what you find easy to appreciate, you can meditate, you can nap, you can take a relaxing walk next to nature, you can play with your pet, you can indulge in a hobby – so many ways in which you can feel better.

Initially, it may seem like an effort but as you practice feeling happy (no matter what) predominantly and consistently, it gets easier. As you feel happy more often (not always but predominantly and consistently) , you allow the law of attraction to match you up with more to feel even more good and then it gets even more easier to feel happy. The easier it gets, the easier it gets.

From this place of happiness when you give someone your attention, you bring the whole of you. You are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to from this place of strength.

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Fear or hope?

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“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.”

–  Nelson Mandela

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The vibrational place (in other words, the emotional place) from where you are focused on a particular situation will determine both – the action you feel inspired to offering and also the further life experiences you allow the law of attraction to match you up with. Thoughts which make you feel better, which make you feel relief, which make it easier for you to feel hope are different from thoughts which make you feel doubt or fear or any other negative emotion. You can choose in any moment which thoughts you would like to focus on. You always have a choice.

Problems have value because if there were no problems, we would not seek solutions and therefore, we would not move forward, expand and grow. For the purpose of expansion, problems or questions have value but when one is all warped up in the problem, it’s difficult to see the solution and even if one does find a solution, at best, it is a mediocre one. In order to create as the master creators that we are, its important to be at the periphery of the problem – not so warped up in it that you can’t see the answers you are seeking.

When giving attention to a problem, one can choose to focus on it by being aware of it and then moving one’s focus onto the desire that is being inspired within because of the problem i.e. onto the solution or the answer. As one moves one’s focus to the desire that life has caused to be inspired within, it easier to feel relief and then hope.

Sometimes, it seems difficult to focus on the solution as the problem feels big. The suggestion then is to focus on any other topic which is easy to appreciate and feel good about. This helps in distracting oneself from thinking about the problem. When feeling better predominantly and consistently, chances are high that one will feel ready to focus on the problem one is facing from a solution oriented approach.

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Unconditionally loving yourself

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“Because we cannot give what we do not have, loving ourselves is absolutely necessary before we can truly love anyone else.”

– Anita Moorjani

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I have seen that when people feel a resonance with the above words, they also ask as to how can we love ourselves, what does loving ourselves look like, how does it play out? Therefore, am sharing this wonderful article by Louise Hay on how can we love ourselves –

12 Ways You Can Love Yourself Now

Learn helpful tips for self-love.

I have found that there is only one thing that heals every problem, and that is to love yourself. When people start to love themselves more each day, it’s amazing how their lives get better. They feel better. They get the jobs they want. They have the money they need. Their relationships either improve, or the negative ones dissolve and new ones begin.

Loving yourself is a wonderful adventure; it’s like learning to fly. Imagine if we all had the power to fly at will? How exciting it would be! Let’s begin to love ourselves now.

Here are 12 Commandments to help you learn how to love yourself:

  1. Stop All Criticism.

Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

  1. Forgive Yourself.

Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing, and you will live life differently.

  1. Don’t Scare Yourself.

Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

  1. Be Gentle and Kind and Patient.

Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

  1. Be Kind to Your Mind.

Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

  1. Praise Yourself.

Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

  1. Support Yourself.

Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

  1. Be Loving to Your Negatives.

Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.

  1. Take Care of Your Body.

Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need in order to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

  1. Do Mirror Work.

Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say, I love you, I really love you!

  1. Love Yourself . . . Do It Now.

Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin now—and do the best you can.

  1. Have Fun.

Remember the things that gave you joy as a child. Incorporate them into your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do. Let yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh. Rejoice, and the Universe rejoices with you!

Let’s affirm: I love myself just the way I am.

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If we love ourselves and therefore are happy appreciating the magnificent creation of life that we are, we find it easier to feel good and also to be of value to whoever we may want to be of value to. Loving ourselves is not the same as vanity or arrogance (that is not love, it’s always fear as Louise Hay says). Loving ourselves is genuinely appreciating the incredible beings that we are.

Joseph Campbell said – “follow your bliss” and Abraham call these words as the most profound words ever uttered. I agree. When you follow your bliss, you feel good and then it’s easier to love yourself and when you love yourself, it’s easier to follow your bliss. A never ending cycle of well-being 🙂

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Love and nurture yourself

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“Stop saying yes to everything and everyone. Stop agreeing with people just so you don’t upset them. You’re not a pushover. You were not put on this Earth to be stressed and miserable so others can be relaxed and happy. Start protecting your time and your happiness. If others can’t handle it, show them the door.”

– Isaiah Hankel

www.isaiahhankel.com/book
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You are worthy of your love

 

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“When we constantly try to please everyone and be loved and accepted by all, we lose ourselves in the process. In the end, we lose everyone else’s approval as well because we are trying to be someone or something other than who we came here to be.”

– Anita Moorjani

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Feeling free and empowered in relationships

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“The purpose of relationship is not to have another who might complete you, but to have another with whom you might share your completeness.”

― Neale Donald Walsch

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When we look at the other person to buoy us up, we are in trouble. Instead of that, if we take out the time to feel good on our own and then approach the interactions we have in our relationship, we bring the whole of ourselves to the relationship.

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Don’t put up with negative emotion

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If someone says “I don’t want to be with you.”

We’d say, “Okay.” And we’d go find someplace else to be. We are not kidding you, we would not put up with any grief.”

– Abraham

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Is it selfish to love yourself?

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“I don’t recall being encouraged to cherish myself.

In fact, it would never even have occurred to me to do so.

It’s commonly thought as being selfish.

But my near death experience allowed me to realize that this was the key to my healing.”

– Anita Moorjani

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You were, you are and you always will be worthy

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“Your value does not decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.”

– unknown

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