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I’am going to be happy – no matter what

pexels-laughing child indian - Surajith S.

 

“We are really advocates of just getting as happy as you can be — which takes care of everything.

Even if you don’t have reason to be happy — make it up. Fantasize it.

Make a decision that you’re going to be happy one way or another — no matter what.

No matter what, I’m going to be happy! If I have to ignore everybody;

if I have to never watch television again;

if I have to never pick up a newspaper again, I’m going to be happy.

If I never have to see that person’s face again, I’m going to be happy.

If I have to see that person’s face, I’m going to find something to see in that person’s face that makes me happy.

I’m going to be happy.

I’m going to be happy.

I’m going to be happy.”

– Abraham Hicks

(the above words by Abraham have been shared from the blog joypassiondesire)

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Off course, the “inner work” is to reach a point wherein no matter what your physical reality is, you feel happy but if you are not able to feel happy while in your current physical reality, then are you supposed to tolerate your negative emotions till you wither away?

No! You can get some distance between that which pains you and you. In that time and space that you get, you can sharpen your focus till the time you are able to focus on any topic (even if it was painful to you earlier) and find something in it to feel better about it (it can be but need not be enthusiastically happy…. just feeling better is awesome too while on your path to feeling good about it) i.e. you achieve stability in your good feeling thoughts. As you do that, you reconnect to your invincibility, to your freedom. The power which creates worlds flows through you. In fact, it is you.

Yes, sometimes, because of the way we are focused on a situation, we cannot feel positive emotion. There is nothing wrong in it. We are human and we need to be easy on ourselves. Negative emotion always tells us that we have grown but have not gone ahead with our growth. Whenever we feel upto it, we can change the way we are focused on it and thereby taste true freedom – i.e. free to feel whatever emotion we want to feel irrespective of what is happening around us. Sometimes, choosing to distance oneself from what is painful helps in reaching this place of strength and therefore, is the path of least resistance (it need not be but sometimes, it is and only you know that by the way you feel about it). From this place of strength, we are of value to ourselves and to anyone else we may want to be of value to.

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Addicted to negative thoughts

woman thinking - Kyle Broad

“Are you addicted to negative thoughts?

Your belief in suffering…

It is sort of like an addiction….

You know what an addiction is:

An addiction is introducing something into your systems that your body acclimates to. And it acclimates to it so well that then, when you don’t give it to your body, your body craves it. And there are thought addictions, too, that are the same things. It’s just that the habit of thought is so strong, that when you do something to try to release the thought, it’s almost like it’s become more comfortable for it to be there, than for it to not be there.”

– Abraham

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Is there a secret to optimal health?

Old lady laughing - Ismael Nieto

“What about the person who smokes, drinks, eats pasta and pepperoni pizza, and lives to be 100 because his life is so full of love, vitality, and purpose that he doesn’t want to leave it? I had a sneaking suspicion that there is a lot more to optimal health than we think.”

― Lissa Rankin, Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself

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The power of your thoughts

 

nebulous mist - NASA

“You are a tuning fork. Your thoughts are energy vibration. What energy are you sending out?”

– Bruce Lipton, Ph.D.

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What is your pain telling you?

 

Fire - Olivia Henry

 

“These pains you feel are messengers. Listen to them.”

– Rumi

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Photo credit – Olivia Henry

What are you creating?

pottery - Alex Jones

In the early 20th century, scientists felt that mass and energy are closely linked. Albert Einstein gave the world the famous equation e = mc2, in which “e” stands for “energy,” “m” denotes “mass” and “c” is the speed of light.

This equation means energy and mass are interchangeable. Einstein realized that matter (i.e. mass) and energy are basically the same thing. In other words, matter is nothing but energy. That means all of us are energy including you and me. Anything which has mass is energy.

I want to take a minute to point out here that if we take any mass, at its basic level it is composed of atoms. If you take a human being, an animal or a table, all of them have mass (i.e. are matter) and at their sub atomic level, have protons, neutron and electrons. There is something very interesting about protons. Protons appear at random, stick around for a while and then vanish to reappear somewhere else and then again vanish. That means when you peek into an atom (of any mass), you will see a proton and then you will not see it. It appears and then disappears giving birth to the thought that you do not need something to create something (that means an effect does not always have to have a cause) or that conjuring something out of nothing is possible, at least for a short while.

Lets come back to energy. Energy is something we feel on an everyday basis. Even if we have never thought about energy, we know what it is. The sun’s energy is felt by us even though the sun is 93 millions miles away. We feel the energy of the wind. It is soft and gentle when a light cool breeze and wild when a tornado. When we stand on a beach and feel the waves, they are energy waves in water. In other words, water energy. We cannot see energy but we sure do feel it.

Our thoughts are also something which we cannot see but we can feel their energy. When we think some positive thoughts, we feel the emotions of hope, optimism, love, appreciation and these makes us feel good. When we think negative thoughts, we feel the emotions of hate, anger, fear, shame, guilt, resentment, revenge, despair or powerlessness and they make us feel negative. The energy of positive feelings and negative feelings is very different. We cannot see thoughts nor their energy but we sure can feel it.

Not only can we feel the energy but those around us can also. Have you met someone whose energy is so positive that just being around them made you feel better? And also, have you met someone whose energy was so negative that it sapped you of whatever energy you had before meeting them?

Another interesting thing about according to Einstein is that “energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be changed from one form to another.” So when there is positive or negative energy within us (because of our positive or negative feelings respectively), where does it go? Before affecting others (as written above), it affects our own body and therefore our lives. There are people who are thriving because of their consistent focus on seeing the positive side of things and there are people betraying themselves of their wellbeing by consistently focusing on the negative side of things. There is nothing right or wrong in either choice. Each one of us has a choice to live our lives the way we want to. The only question which one may want to ask is “are our choices serving us or not?”

Some people may say, “I have reasons to feel negative. I have evidence of things going wrong, I have proof, I have photographs, I have research etc”. Yes, when the physical reality is showing you what you do not want, it can be difficult to feel what you want to feel (i.e. feel good) but at the end of the day, the law of attraction states “like attracts like” – i.e. what you are feeling attracts more to feel the same. So, if you are predominantly feeling positive, you attract more to feel even more positive and if you are predominantly feeling negative, you attract more to feel negative. If you feel a little bit of positive and a little bit negative on an every day basis, what you get is also the same – i.e. a little bit of positive experiences and a little bit of negative experiences but if you want to reduce the negative experiences and increase the positive experiences, every time you find yourself thinking negative thoughts and therefore feeling negative, you may want to ask “what am I creating with these thoughts?” “What am I allowing the law of attraction to give me in my reality – experiences which will make me feel better (which is what I want to feel) or experiences which will make me feel negative?”

It may be an effort initially to change your predominant negative feelings to positive feelings because the law of attraction would have been giving you experiences to match up to your feelings (so if you have been allowing yourself to feel negative, you would have been getting more experiences to feel even more negative and will continue to do so till the time the momentum of your positive thoughts increase) and it will take a little time to change your physical reality but if you can continue to feel positive thoughts just for the sake of feeling good, you will enable the law of attraction to match you up with experiences which make you feel the same i.e. better. When you have had enough of feeling negative emotions and are desperately seeking relief, it will be easier for you to let go of the struggle within and start using any excuse to feel better. The question arises here that do we need to wait till we feel utterly exhausted with our negative emotions to start truly valuing good feeling thoughts? We need not wait and tolerate forever in order to start creating what we want. We always have a choice to start being the creators we intended to be at any point we choose.

The source within you, your inner being (or inner self or god or infinite intelligence or soul) feels only positive emotions – love, joy, freedom, empowered and appreciation. Your inner being loves and adores you. When you are feeling good, you are aligned to your inner being and when you are feeling negative, you are far away from what your inner being is feeling. You will always want to feel good as that is who you are, that is what your source is. Your emotions have value as they are an indicator of whether you are aligned or not to your inner being.

When someone praises you, you feel good as the source within you feels the same about you. When someone criticizes you, you feel bad because the source within you is still focused on how good you are but you are focusing on the criticism and hence feeling something which the source within you will never feel about you. Negative feelings are your indicator that you are not aligned to your source, that you are feeling something which your source does not feel. Whenever you are feeling negative, see that feeling for what it is indicating i.e. you are not feeling about that particular subject what the source within you feels for that subject. Once you become aware, all you need to do in order to feel better is to start focusing on something which is easy to appreciate and then you are in the vicinity of feeling what your source feels i.e. love, appreciation, joy, empowered and free. As you continue to focus on topics which are easy to appreciate for you, as you remember pleasant memories, as you imagine things the way you would like them to and feel good (i.e. as you daydream 🙂 ), as you indulge in activities which you like, as you talk to people you like, as you meditate – as you do any of these processes or any other to feel better, you start feeling incrementally better and finally you start feeling good and are now aligned to your source.

When you choose to focus on aligning with your inner being and therefore feeling good (or vice versa), you are not only feeling what you want to feel but you also allow the law of attraction to match you up with experiences which will make you feel even better. When you are feeling positive, you are moving in the direction of experiences which are a match to what you are feeling i.e. will make you feel even better and when you are feeling negative, you are moving in the direction of what will make you feel even more negative. The choice is always yours.

It’s an incremental process. The first day, you might be able to distract yourself from your negative feeling thoughts and focus on positive feeling thoughts and therefore, feel better only for 30 seconds in the entire 24 hours; the second day, it could be 45 seconds; the second week, it would be one minute daily; the third week, it could be five minutes daily and so on. At times, you might find that you have allowed yourself to feel positive much less than the earlier day. It’s okay. You can always start feeling better from the next day for a longer duration. You never miss the bus. Use any excuse to feel better. It could be a walk next to nature or listening to soothing music or talking to a supportive and trustworthy friend or meditating or dancing or travelling or writing a journal of all the positive things in your life or playing with your children etc. Choose whatever process resonates with you.

This process of feeling better will depend on two things – what is happening within you and how committed you are to thinking good feelings thoughts consciously and consistently on an everyday basis. The suggestion is that, initially, create these feel good moments just for the relief you so much want from the negative thoughts and just to feel that feeling which you want so much. Even if you can’t feel good immediately, it’s fine. In fact chances are that you would not be able to feel good immediately as the momentum of the negative thoughts will need to be replaced by the momentum of the positive thoughts. The changes will be small. As long as you feel a little better than earlier, you are moving in the direction of feeling what you want to feel. As your reality starts to incrementally change, it will be easier for you to predominantly feel good as now your reality will be easier to appreciate.

We want what we want because we believe that in the having of it, we will feel better. Its that feeling (feeling better) which we are targeting. If we can through any excuse feel better in the first place, then what we want will come to us easily. Why swim upstream when you can swim downstream and get what you want? There are people who have got what they wanted but in the journey has been so arduous for them that its taken a heavy toll on their lives (sometimes, their health has suffered, sometimes their relationships, sometimes their abundance and sometimes – all of these have suffered). By consciously and consistently creating more feel good moments for us, we start leveraging the power of the universe and as Abraham say “one who is aligned is more powerful than millions who are not”. Not only do we feel better but we allow the law of attraction to get us more to feel even better.

From this place of feeling strong, we are of value to ourselves and also to those whom we may want to be of value to. From this place of strength rather than lack, our action is so much more complete and whole.

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Bitter or better?

“You either get bitter or you get better. It’s that simple. You either take what has been dealt to you and allow it to make you a better person, or you allow it to tear you down. The choice does not belong to fate, it belongs to you.”

– Josh Shipp

lemons and lemonade and honey - Anda Ambrosini

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It’s helpful to know that your choice decides what will further come your way. The law of attraction states “like attracts like” i.e. what you are thinking and hence, feeling attracts more to feel the same. The essence of what you are thinking and feeling attracts more like it. Therefore, if you are predominantly and consistently thinking thoughts which make you feel bitter, you attract more to feel even more bitter (no one is punishing you…it’s just the way the law of attraction operates) and in the same way, if you are thinking thoughts which make you feel better predominantly and consistently, you attract more to feel even more better. The choice is yours. You are the creator of your life and you can choose to feel what you want to feel in any moment.

Sometimes, it may seem difficult to feel better if your physical reality is painful. In those situations, the suggestion is to distract yourself to thinking about something which is easy for you to appreciate. Everyday, you will have moments in which you will feel a little relief from the pain. One can stretch these better feeling moments by firstly being aware of them when they occur and then by distracting oneself to a topic which one finds easy to feel good about in such moments of relief. As one does so through out the day, everyday, one walks towards feeling even more better and then even more better till one is predominantly and consistently feeling good.

The choice is always yours.

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A diet of a different kind

The elimination diet :

“Remove anger, regret, resentment, guilt, blame and worry. Then watch your health and life improve.”

– Charles F. Glassman

The V sign by two women - Ian Schneider

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Even if one cannot eliminate negative emotion (it has value), one can always reduce it by distracting oneself to a topic which is easy to appreciate every time one feels the temptation to indulge in negative emotion. As we reduce negative emotion and increase  positive emotion through the day, everyday, we allow the law of attraction to match us up with experiences which make us feel the same i.e. even more positive. We may still have one odd experience here and there which has the potential to make it easy for us to choose negative emotion but mostly, there will be experiences which make us feel better as we are predominantly, consistently and consciously creating more feel good moments for ourselves on a daily basis by focusing on topics or in ways which make us feel better.

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Negative emotion is part of the guidance we were born with

cactus - Oliver Pacas

“Are you under the misimpression that negative emotion is a bad thing?

Negative emotion is not a bad thing. Negative emotion is guidance to help you redirect and refocus.

It’s all part of the dance.”

– Abraham

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What you are feeling while doing what you are doing has value

Man doing pottery - Alex Jones

“The truth is that we all know, if we pause to think about it, that doing what we love is good for us. Or, we at least know that doing things that we don’t enjoy, or that stress us out, is not good for us. In fact, both western and eastern medicines support this idea: that stress makes us ill.”

– John C. Parkin

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