Life Coaching with Sonal

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Feeling relief when in fear

What fear is …..is a feeling I have when I am holding a desire in my conscious attention and a belief that contradicts it in the same moment.

– Abraham-Hicks
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Examples of the above – desiring financial prosperity and believing that it will be difficult for you to get it or desiring a recovery from a particular illness and having a belief that the recovery you desire is rare and difficult. Basically, fear is the negative emotion (or one of the negative emotions) that you feel when you think the thought – “I can’t have what I want.”

The good news is that if you want and if you feel ready to, you can change your beliefs in order to align them with your desires as per your path of least resistance 🙂

You do that by soothing yourself thought by thought, moment by moment, as per your own beautiful, unique and individual pace whenever you feel ready to do so. Initially distracting yourself to topics which are easy for you to appreciate helps in feeling relief more often and then from this place of relief and strength, if one wants and feels ready to, one can soothe oneself on the topic one feels fear on.

Of course, pre-paving on a daily basis helps in not only reducing the frequency of life experiences which have the potential for you to choose fear but it also reduces the intensity of the fear that you feel when in them and hence helps in your regaining your balance easily as compared to before you started pre-paving. Pre-paving means allowing more feel-good moments (i.e. moments in which you are feeling relief, moments in which you are feeling good, moments in which you have a spring in your step, moments in which you have a song in your heart, moments in which you are relaxed, positive emotion feeling moments…) and as you do so predominantly and consistently, you develop vibrational muscles, you develop sea legs, you develop good shock absorbers in life. The action you feel inspired to from this place of strength is so much more than from a place of lack. This is not the only way to react to fear but it is an easy and effective way.

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“When you fear anything, don’t take the next step or do something you’re afraid to do. There are a lot of people that will say: “Oh just push through it, and when you push through it, then you’ll get over being afraid of it.”

And we encourage you to do instead is to come into alignment with what you want first by finding the thoughts that feel good, because fear is there for a reason.

The fear is saying: “there’s resistance within you, that is going to attract some of what you want and some of what you don’t want.

Why not clean it up before you take action?

-Abraham-Hicks

 

Bless you fear, thank you for pointing out that I just blocked something that I want, with a bogus habit of thought, that doesn’t apply and has no relevance to where I am now and where I’m going. THAT’S the nugget we’ve been reaching for, that’s the taking thought beyond which it has been before, that’s why we want you to make peace with your negative emotion, that’s why we want you to understand what it is, that’s why we want you to stop standing in a place being mad at yourself or someone else, feeling negative emotion.

Bless you fear. You’re reminding me that I’ve got some vibrational work to do. You’re not here to remind me that I can’t have what I want, you’re just here to remind me that I’m not ready for what I want yet.

Thank you negative emotion for reminding me of amplifying the thought, that there is something that I keenly want, to which I’m not in the vibrational vicinity of, but I have the ability to close that Gap with a little bit of effort.”

– Abraham-Hicks

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The wound has value

 

“The wound is the place where the light enters you.”

– Rumi
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It does not have to be this way but for most people who allow themselves to reconnect in their own, beautiful, unique and individual way with who they are, with the light that is within as well as surrounding them at all times, the clear desire to heal the wound, the strong desire for well-being, the sharp desire for feeling free and happy is the reason to start allowing the reconnection. The wound helps in making this desire clearer, stronger and sharper as compared to before the wound. When one has a strong desire and allows it in one’s physical reality by being a match to it vibrationally, one starts living life empowered and free.

This is the value of the wound. It can help in choosing to allow unconditional happiness more often and when one allows and practices unconditional happiness every day throughout the day, one allows the feeling of empowerment, freedom, worthiness, joy, love and appreciation, predominantly and consistently. We are pure positive energy and we love the moments in which we are feeling the essence of who we are, moments where we are “in the flow” or what athletes call – “being in the zone”. Composers, authors, artists, inventors etc. have long realized that if they are not in the flow, nothing flows.

The wound may be painful but it does have value in helping us grow beyond where we were into a place of true freedom – i.e. freedom from needing conditions to be met before we can be happy. Yes, it is a practice and that is the work for all of us on a daily basis – choosing a better feeling thought on a moment to moment, thought to thought basis (on the topic of the wound, if we feel ready to or by distracting ourselves to any other topic which is easy for us to appreciate in that moment) as per our own beautiful and unique pace, our individual path of least resistance. The journey is eternal.

One of the awesome results of this unconditional happiness is that we allow the law of attraction to match us up with more to be even more happy about as we are already in the same or similar vibration/feeling predominantly and consistently (not always but predominantly and consistently). Even if one can feel positive emotions 55% of the time every day, one would have managed to allow a substantial change in one’s predominant and consistent vibrations and hence of what one allows to manifest in one’s life. The better it gets, the better it gets.

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You are powerful beyond measure

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“You’ve always had

the power my dear,

you just had to

learn it for yourself.”

–  The Wizard Of Oz

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Babies are born knowing who they are – love, joy, worthy, free and powerful. They may not be able to articulate it in these words but they know it. You can see it in the sheer joy they take in discovering the world around, the love they have for their bodies, the curiosity they have for the world, the enthusiasm for life in their eyes. Babies are so thrilled and delighted in their beingness. When children are told that they are wrong or what they have done is wrong and therefore, others around them are not happy, have you seen their disapproval at the criticism coming their way? It’s like their entire being says to them that they are good and they just don’t like the criticism and disapproval coming their way.

As they grow up, it takes a lot of convincing for many of them to learn that there are things in them which others do not like, that they need to prove their worthiness by doing some things which then others will decide their worthiness upon, that the world does not revolve around them, that they are not all that special as they think they are and similar non-nurturing thoughts/beliefs….. Not everyone around them judges them but there are many who do as they grow up into children, teenagers and then adults. By the time they reach adulthood or even teenage in many cases, many have lost their connection with who they are, with the essence of who they are.

This is not to blame those around for what they said or did as they were doing their best from their knowledge and understanding. This is also not to justify what they did and/or said but just to understand as understanding is important in order to soothe oneself, in order to feel relief, in order to feel better and feeling better is what each one of us wants. It’s important to soothe ourselves in order to move ahead with love in our hearts.

Why is feeling love so important to us? As written earlier – that is our essence – love, appreciation, joy, free, worthiness and empowered. We love it when we feel love. We love feeling who we truly are. Anything that we want – a more nurturing relationship or more money or better health or a bigger car or a better house or starting a new venture or a promotion at work etc. is all because we believe that we will feel better in the having of it. It is that positive feeling that we are targeting because that is our core, our essence.

Feeling free and powerful does not mean vanity or arrogance. Louise Hay said that vanity or arrogance is always from a place of fear. Being connected with who you are means genuine love and appreciation for this beautiful life and for the magnificent creation of life that you are. From this of place of strength, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

The good news is that we can reconnect, predominantly and consistently, to who we are whenever we want to and feel ready to do so and when we do, we reconnect to our freedom, worthiness and power. It is a sight to behold 🙂

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You can change your life, if you want to

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“I changed my thinking. It changed my life.”

– unknown
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These simple and profound words reminded me of a beautiful quote by Louise Hay –

“I change my life when I change my thinking.
I am Light. I am Spirit.
I am a wonderful, capable being.
And it is time for me to acknowledge
that I create my own reality with my thoughts.
If I want to change my reality,
then it is time for me to change my mind.”

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When you align with who you are, you reconnect to your power and freedom

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“We are stars wrapped in skin. The light you are seeking has always been within.”

– unknown

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Reconnect to your power

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“You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.”

– unknown
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The above reminds me of this very empowering quote by Abraham Hicks – “it is not your job to keep others happy and it is not their job to keep you happy”. It is your job to make yourself happy and it is their job to make themselves happy. Each one of us has the potential, the ability to feel happy through the power of our own focus, our thoughts much more than we give ourselves credit for. When you let yourself off the hook and let others off the hook too, can you imagine the deliciousness of that feeling? Two happy people savoring life coming together to further savor the awesomeness of the moments together. Can you imagine the power of that?

We are uplifters and it does feel good when we uplift others. When someone comes up to us and tells us that something that we did or said made him feel happy, we feel good. The problem arises when we start doing things for others in order for them to be happy and as time goes, we teach them to be dependent on us for their happiness. As they feel dependent on us for their happiness, their demands keep increasing and we keep giving even though we start feeling depleted. We have done two things – we have taught them to depend on us (rather than the power of their focus) and we have started resenting the very relationships we may have wanted to be of value to because now we feel we cannot give anymore. When we tell others that we cannot give anymore, more often than not they may react with anger because they are now used to getting their happiness from us. We may want them to have a different reaction. We may want them to understand where we are coming from but more often than not, this is not what we get from them in this situation.

We can’t control others (we may try and maybe we succeed with one person in the world but we can’t control them all and we do meet many people during our lifetime… trying to control them results in frustration) but we can control our thoughts. When we decide to focus on positive feeling thoughts, we allow the law of attraction to match us more with experiences which make us feel even more positive. As we practice our positive feeling thoughts throughout the day, every day, those who are around us either change to be a match to our new and improved vibrations or leave our experience and others take their place who are a match to our new vibrations. We start allowing the life experiences we desire.

Yes, it does require practice and initially, it may require gently guiding yourself to positive feeling thoughts. Feeling positive is not like a college degree that once you have it, it’s yours forever. Feeling positive is a choice you make every day, throughout the day. The suggestion is to be kind and gentle with yourself when starting to choose positive feeling thoughts over negative feeling thoughts. If you find yourself thinking negative feeling thoughts, that’s okay. You are human. The moment you are aware that you are thinking negative feeling thoughts, if you want, you can change them by distracting yourself to positive feeling thoughts. You can change your thoughts whenever you want. You never miss the bus.

Distracting yourself to “topics which are easy for you to appreciate” makes allowing more and more positive feeling moments easier on a daily basis. When you do this, that’s when you start allowing the life that you want to live – predominantly and consistently feeling positive. Anything that you want – more money, good health, a more nurturing relationship, a better career, starting a new venture, a bigger car etc. is all because you believe that you will feel better in the having of it. It is that feeling that you are targeting through that physical manifestation. If you can feel positive even though what you want has not yet manifested, what you want manifests “easily” in all its glory and the best part is that you “enjoy” the journey to living the physical manifestation that you want. That’s when you are “in the flow”. Athletes call it being in the zone. Musicians, athletes, authors, inventors, composers etc have long realized that unless they are in the flow, nothing flows.

Don’t do it for others. Do it for yourself. You can easily reconnect to your power, which was, is and always will be there for you within you.

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Do not look for love in all the wrong places

 

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“Don’t worry if someone doesn’t like you. Most people are struggling to like themselves.”

– Unknown

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When you expect love from people who are not even loving themselves in the first place, it’s like expecting a loan from someone who does not have money. Knowing this helps in feeling relief when you meet someone who doesn’t like you. This is not to justify but to understand and understanding is important in order for you to move on without negative emotion.

Some people may say “no! people who do not like me do love themselves. I do see them laughing and having fun”. Firstly, you have no means of knowing how they truly feel within. Secondly, you must understand that when someone loves himself/ herself, from that place of love and strength, whoever has the benefit of laying their eyes on this person feels that love if he/she is in the vibrational vicinity. From this place of feeling love and feeling good – you want to appreciate, you want to smile, you want to pass compliments, you have a spring in your step, you feel good, you feel ease, you feel joy, you are kind and gentle with yourself and with others. From this empowered place, you are of so much value to yourself and to others you want to be of value to.

So, when you love yourself, it’s easier to feel love for others too.

Even if you choose not to move away from someone who does not love you, understanding this will help in feeling better when with such people or while thinking about such people. In addition to focusing in this way, distracting yourself to topics which are easy for you to appreciate also helps in feeling better. It’s important to feel better because firstly, that is what you want. You want to feel better. Everything that you want in your life – better health, more money, better career, starting a new venture, a more nurturing relationship etc. is because you believe that you will feel better in the having of it. It is that feeling that you are targeting. Looking at a situation in a way which makes you feel relief, allows you to feel better in the first place (which is what you want) even though the situation may not have changed. You reconnect to your freedom – freedom from negative thoughts.

Secondly, as you feel better predominantly and consistently (irrespective of the situation you are in), you allow the law of attraction to match you up with more to feel even more better about. Your physical reality changes to be a match to your new, improved, predominant and consistent vibrations about a topic which earlier used to be painful to you. That is when you start living as the creator that you intended to be – creator of your life experiences. You reconnect to your power.

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You can choose to focus on what is coming

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“Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”

– Carl Bard

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Are you looking for love in all the wrong places?

 

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“People are always running around wanting to find way to get others to love them or approve of them or appreciate them, when really the answer is, if you could just start loving and approving and appreciating , you’d solve your own problem.”….

“You’re looking for love in all the wrong places.

And every place is the wrong place to look for love other than WITHIN where it is really generated from.”….

– Abraham

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Of course, it feels good when others appreciate you but if your happiness depends on what others think of you, you are in trouble.

The good news is that you can always use the power of your focus (whenever you feel ready to do so) to look at a situation which is painful in a different way. Why would you want do look at it differently? You would want to feel differently because it will give you relief. Relief is what we like when in pain. In addition to feeling better, feeling relief deliberately, predominantly and consistently will also allow the law of attraction to match you up with experiences which make you feel even more relief.

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I’am going to be happy – no matter what

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“We are really advocates of just getting as happy as you can be — which takes care of everything.

Even if you don’t have reason to be happy — make it up. Fantasize it.

Make a decision that you’re going to be happy one way or another — no matter what.

No matter what, I’m going to be happy! If I have to ignore everybody;

if I have to never watch television again;

if I have to never pick up a newspaper again, I’m going to be happy.

If I never have to see that person’s face again, I’m going to be happy.

If I have to see that person’s face, I’m going to find something to see in that person’s face that makes me happy.

I’m going to be happy.

I’m going to be happy.

I’m going to be happy.”

– Abraham Hicks

(the above words by Abraham have been shared from the blog joypassiondesire)

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Off course, the “inner work” is to reach a point wherein no matter what your physical reality is, you feel happy but if you are not able to feel happy while in your current physical reality, then are you supposed to tolerate your negative emotions till you wither away?

No! You can get some distance between that which pains you and you. In that time and space that you get, you can sharpen your focus till the time you are able to focus on any topic (even if it was painful to you earlier) and find something in it to feel better about it (it can be but need not be enthusiastically happy…. just feeling better is awesome too while on your path to feeling good about it) i.e. you achieve stability in your good feeling thoughts. As you do that, you reconnect to your invincibility, to your freedom. The power which creates worlds flows through you. In fact, it is you.

Yes, sometimes, because of the way we are focused on a situation, we cannot feel positive emotion. There is nothing wrong in it. We are human and we need to be easy on ourselves. Negative emotion always tells us that we have grown but have not gone ahead with our growth. Whenever we feel upto it, we can change the way we are focused on it and thereby taste true freedom – i.e. free to feel whatever emotion we want to feel irrespective of what is happening around us. Sometimes, choosing to distance oneself from what is painful helps in reaching this place of strength and therefore, is the path of least resistance (it need not be but sometimes, it is and only you know that by the way you feel about it). From this place of strength, we are of value to ourselves and to anyone else we may want to be of value to.

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