Life Coaching with Sonal

Empowering those who are asking for what they want, those who want to live their dreams, those who believe deep within that life is supposed to be good – and that is you.

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Joy all the way

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“Joy is not the result of getting what you want. It is the way to get what you want. In the deepest sense, joy is what you want.”

– Alan Cohen

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The destination (or manifestation of the specific desire that you have) is important but it’s the fun of the ride that you really want. When the destination becomes more important than the journey to it, the fun reduces. If it was just the destination that you wanted, once you would have reached there, you would not want anything else but you savor your destination for some time and then, you again have another destination (another desire) that you want (and another ride that you start). The journey is eternal. There will always be more and once you know that, you can feel ease with this eternalness and thereby, easily allow more feel-good moments while on the way to what you want. Makes the journey easier and also allows what you want to manifest in its full glory.

What you want is because you believe you will feel better in the having of it – whether it is money, a more loving relationship, health, starting a business, a promotion at work, a bigger car etc. It is that feeling that you are targeting through the specific desire that you have. Why save all the joy only for the last part i.e. when it manifests in your physical reality when you can allow joy not only in the manifestation but also on the way to it? Why limit the joy in your life when you can so easily feel it in the here and now even if what you want hasn’t manifested? You can do so in many ways – meditation, a walk next to nature, indulging in a hobby, speaking with a trustworthy and supportive friend, napping (yes 🙂 ), a warm relaxing bath, a soothing massage, daily lists of appreciation about topics which are easy for you to appreciate, feeling affirmations and visualizations (general or specific, depending on your readiness)…. – depending on the resonance you feel, you can choose one or more than one way out of these (or ways similar to these, ways which make it easy for you to feel better, to feel ease, to have a spring in your step, a song in your heart) to allow yourself to feel positive emotions on a daily basis.

You are pure positive energy. That is why you love feeling positive emotions (of course, moments of negative emotion have value as they facilitate growth and expansion beyond what you have been before but since they are painful, you would want to reduce them and increase the moments in which you are feeling joy, appreciation, love, worthy, free, empowered and other positive emotions…you would want to tip the balance towards positive emotions) and when you realize that you can allow more and more feel-good moments on a daily basis, you may want to consider it. You have the ability to feel positive emotions predominantly and consistently and when you show yourself that you can do so, no matter what – you reconnect to your freedom. As you practice allowing feel-good moments throughout the day everyday in ways which are easy for you, ways which resonate with you depending on where you are – you develop vibrational muscle. It is a practice even for people who feel ecstasy on a rather regular basis. Yes, it gets easier as you go along but it is still a practice (a choice) on a moment to moment basis.

As it gets easier for you, you become good at allowing more and more joyful moments on a daily basis and thereby, you allow the law of attraction to match you up with more life experiences which are in the same or similar frequency i.e. which make you even more joy. The better it gets, the better it gets. You start living life from a place of strength, just the way you intended to live when you decided to come in this time-space-reality.

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Focusing on what you desire rather than the problem which inspired your desire has value

 

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“It’s not necessary for you to exacerbate your contrast with struggle in order to get it into a higher place. It is not necessary to suffer in order to give birth to desire. But when you have suffered and you have given birth to a desire, so what? You’ve got a desire. Turn your attention to the desire. Think about where you’re going and never mind where you’ve been. Don’t spend any more time justifying any of that stuff.”

– Abraham- Hicks

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A suggestion which can help in feeling the relief you so much want to feel when in a place of negative emotion is to distract yourself to any topic which is easy for you to appreciate. As you do so, moment by moment you move closer to what you love feeling – ease, joy, love, free and worthy.

You may ask – “why should I do this? I am so justified in feeling the negative emotion that I am feeling.” Yes, you are right in feeling what you are feeling. If you tell ten people around you why you are upset or angry or any other negative emotion that you are feeling, they may all agree with you that you are right in feeling what you are feeling. You get to be right but you don’t get to be happy and happy is what you want to be, what you love being. Negative emotions have value as they help you in giving birth to new desires or amend the earlier ones but you don’t like when you are feeling negative emotions as that is not who you truly are (there could be situations where a negative emotion like anger feels better like when one is in despair as anger feels more powerful than despair but you don’t like to get stuck in anger for long….you eventually yearn to feel relief and ease).

You are pure positive energy and that is why you love feeling positive emotions. Don’t you like it when you feel joy? Don’t you feel good when you find yourself appreciating things/people/places/experiences? Don’t you find love such a wonderful feeling? The answer to these questions is yes and you do that because that’s who you are, that’s who your inner self is. When you hold yourself in negative emotion (however justified it may be), you are far away from your true inner self and the negative emotion is an indicator that you are separate or disconnected in that moment from who you truly are because of the thoughts you have chosen.

Whenever you become aware that you are feeling negative emotion and want to and more important, feel ready to think positive feeling thoughts, you can consider distracting yourself to a topic which you find easy to appreciate. Yes, it can be an effort in the beginning and that’s where distraction to a topic which is “easy” for you to feel good about helps. Distraction has huge power.

As you continue doing so more often every day, you will allow more moments on a daily basis where you are feeling the positive emotions you like to feel predominantly and consistently (not always but predominantly and consistently). As you find yourself more and more at this place of strength and feeling good, chances are high that you will be able to look at the topic which was painful for you in a way which gives you the relief you so much want to feel with regard to it (in many cases, because of the new, predominant and consistent vibrational place that you are in, you will find that the topic which was painful earlier has resolved itself and the solution is pleasing to you. If it hasn’t resolved, because of the place of strength (rather than struggle/ negative emotion/ resistance) that you are in, you will be able to look at it in a way which makes you feel better…may not be enthusiastic in that red hot minute but better than where you were earlier on it).

When in a place of positive emotions, not only will you be feeling what you want to feel but you will also allow the law of attraction to match you up with more positive feeling experiences. You will allow yourself to be matched up with the answer/solution that you seek in its full potential and in a way which has ease. The frequency/ feeling of the solution is different from the frequency of the problem. By allowing positive feeling thoughts predominantly and consistently, you become a match to the solution rather than the problem. You want the solution as you believe it will make you feel better. If you can feel better before it comes, you allow it to come to you easily and in it’s full glory.

You can thought by thought, moment by moment choose through your path of least resistance the thoughts that feel better to you. We have the ability to think the thoughts we want to think much more than we give ourselves credit for.

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“Anytime you feel negative emotion, stop and say: Something is important here; otherwise, I would not be feeling this negative emotion. What is it that I want? And then simply turn your attention to what you do want. . . . In the moment you turn your attention to what you want, the negative attraction will stop; and in the moment the negative attraction stops, the positive attraction will begin. And—in that moment—your feeling will change from not feeling good to feeling good. That is the Process of Pivoting.”

– Abraham-Hicks

Excerpted from the workshop: Money and the Law of Attraction on August 31, 2008

 

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There is value in choosing what makes your heart sing

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“Follow your bliss and remember that unless you feel good about yourself, you have nothing of value to offer to another.”

– Abraham-Hicks

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When you are feeling joy, when you choose what makes your heart sing, when you allow yourself to feel ease, when you have a spring in your step, when you choose to feel appreciation – you are of immense value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

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Letting go of the struggle allows relief

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“I stopped trying to explain myself to those who cannot hear my explanation. That’s big.”

– Abraham-Hicks
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These words are simple, profound and so freeing. Letting go of the struggle can allow the relief one wants to feel. From this place of relief, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

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Deliberately allowing feel-good moments has value

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“Satisfying relationships don’t bring alignment. Alignment brings satisfying relationships.

Do you see what must come first?”

– Abraham-Hicks

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You are not happy because you are living a good life. You are living a good life because you are happy. You allow your desires to manifest “easily” and “in their full potential” when you start reconnecting to your ability to feel relief, to feel better, to feel good, no matter what.

As you practice unconditional alignment/joy/feeling positive emotions predominantly and consistently, you reconnect to your freedom and power. Even for people who feel ecstasy on a rather regular basis, allowing feel-good moments is a practice. The good news is that as you practice, it does get easier. In this place of strength, you mostly feel emotions that you like (i.e. positive feeling emotions) and you allow the law of attraction to match you up with more positive feeling moments as the law of attraction states – “like attracts like” – what you are feeling attracts more to feel the same. The better it gets, the better it gets.

The law of attraction does not state that you feel positive all the time (negative emotions can be painful but they do have value as they are part of our inner guidance). Even if you can feel positive emotions 55% of the time on a daily basis, you would have made a substantial difference to your predominant and consistent vibrations/ feelings and hence to the kind of life experiences that manifest in your physical reality. We have the ability to feel the emotions that we want to feel much more than we give ourselves credit for.

Initially, it may require effort but it’s like learning a new software program or a new skill – initially it requires effort and as one goes along, it gets easier and easier. What helps us in this practice is knowing that we love feeling positive emotions. Anything that anyone wants – more money, starting a new venture, a promotion at work, a more loving relationship, bigger car, better house, health etc. is all because one believes that one will better in the having of it. It is that positive feeling that we are targeting because we love positive emotions. We love them because that is who we are – pure positive energy and we always feel the call of who we are when we choose to separate ourselves from it and we feel good when we reconnect to it.

Practicing the art of allowing positive emotions on a daily basis does have value.

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Negative emotion is part of your inner guidance

 

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“Are you under the misimpression that negative emotion is a bad thing?

Negative emotion is not a bad thing.

Negative emotion is guidance to help you redirect and refocus.

It’s all part of the dance.”

– Abraham-Hicks

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Negative emotion is our indicator that we are not where we want to be (we are not feeling the emotions that we want to feel, the emotions that we like) and therefore, it’s part of the inner guidance that we were born with – the manual within each one of us. Whenever you feel negative emotion, all its telling you is that you are not feeling positive emotion (which is what you want to feel – you love the feeling you feel when you feel worthy, when you love someone or something, when you appreciate, when you feel free, when you feel empowered, when you feel hope..) and if you feel ready, you can refocus to a better feeling thought.

If initially, you can’t find anything to feel better about the specific situation you are feeling negative feeling thoughts about, you can distract yourself to some other topic which is easy for you to appreciate. It may take a little effort initially just like it does when you are learning a new computer program or skill but as you go along, it gets easier to focus in a way which makes you feel better (not enthusiastic at that red-hot minute but a little better from where you are). As you continue feeling better every day in ways which are easy for you, chances are high that you will reach a place where you are feeling good predominantly and consistently. At this place, many times people find that the topic which they were worried or angry (or any other negative emotion) about has resolved itself because their predominant and consistent vibrations have changed. In case it has not resolved itself, chances are high that because of the new and improved vibrational place that you are in now (and therefore, in a place of strength rather than lack) you will feel ready to focus on it in a way which soothes you, which makes you feel better about it. If you don’t feel ready, that is okay too. I understand and respect that. We all have our own unique, beautiful, individual journeys. You can always choose to continue feeling positive emotions by focusing on topics which are easy for you to appreciate.

If you feel ready and choose to practice better feeling thoughts, thoughts which soothe you, thoughts which provide relief about the specific topic that was painful to you, you allow yourself to be matched by the law of attraction to the solution you are seeking. The topic was painful and therefore, you want to feel ease about it. You want a solution because you believe the solution will make you feel better. The feeling/vibration of the problem is pain and the feeling/vibration of the solution you want is ease/feeling better/feeling hope/feeling appreciation/feeling worthy/ feeling free/ feeling love. The frequency of the solution and the frequency of the problem are different. If you are at 108 FM and want to listen to some other FM channel, you have to turn the dial. If you have a problem, you have to focus on it in a way in which you are a vibrational match to the solution in order to allow the solution to come to you. The problem is important but if you are all warped/wrapped up in the problem, you are not a match to what you want i.e. the solution which is a different frequency/vibration/feeling. Artists, athletes, composers, authors, writers, inventors etc. have long realized that until and unless they are in the flow, nothing flows. By flow, it means being a vibrational match to the solution, predominantly and consistently.

By feeling better about that specific topic, you allow the solution to be realized by you because you are feeling the same frequency or in the vicinity of the frequency of the solution you desire. Everything that you want is because you believe that you will feel better in the having of it – whether it is more clarity, more confidence, starting a new venture, a promotion at work, a more nurturing relationship, better health, a bigger house etc. It is that feeling that you are targeting and when you can feel relief or hope or any other positive emotion (which you believe you will feel once the solution manifests in your life) even though what you want hasn’t manifested, you allow it to manifest “easily” and “in its full potential”.

Positive emotions and negative emotions are part of our guidance – the manual each one of us was born with. Knowing this helps in being kind and gentle with yourself whenever you find yourself feeling negative emotion. You are human and your emotions (both positive as well as negative) are part of your inner guidance. The good news is that you can step by step (at your own unique, beautiful, individual pace) feel a little better every day and thereby, allow what you want to come to you by being a vibrational match to it. You want to feel good because that is who you are – pure positive energy and whenever you choose to think thoughts that make you feel negative emotion, that negative emotion is an indicator that you are not a match to who you are and therefore, you don’t like feeling negative emotion. Yes, sometimes, anger can feel good because its more powerful than a feeling of despair, helplessness or depression but if you get stuck at anger and don’t move towards positive feeling thoughts, you don’t like it.

When the indicator tells you that the fuel tank in your car is near empty, you decide to get it filled up at the nearest gas station. You feel good that you have an indicator which lets you know. You do not get angry at the indicator. You feel good as you realize it’s value. It’s the same with negative emotions. They are your indicator that you are thinking thoughts which are so far apart from who you truly are. They are an indicator of the gap between who you are choosing to be/ the thoughts you are thinking in that moment and who you are truly are. Whenever you will have this gap, the negative emotions (could be fear or anger or hatred or rage or guilt or despair etc.) you feel are your indicator that you have chosen to separate yourself from the pure positive energy that you are. The negative emotion is the evidence that you are feeling the call of who you truly are and because of the thoughts you are choosing to think in that moment, you are not aligned with who you are. The good news is that you can choose. You are free to choose the thoughts you think in your mind. Sharing a beautiful quote by Abraham-Hicks here – “you are so free, you can choose bondage”.

Negative emotions may not feel good but they do have value as they indicate to you (if you are sensitive, you can become aware of negative thoughts early on which does make it easy to deactivate them by activating positive feeling thoughts. Not that you can’t change them later on but it is relatively easier in the early stages) that you are not where you want to be and you may want to consider refocusing in a way which makes you feel the emotions that you truly are – joy, appreciation, worthy, free, empowered and love not only because that is who you are but that is how you allow the solutions you want to be realized by you. That is how you start living predominantly and consistently as the creator (of your life experiences) you intended to be when you came in this time-space-reality. Such an empowered place to live life from.

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There is always hope

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“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”

– Alexander Graham Bell

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There is always another way to allow what you want. As Abraham-Hicks say – “you never miss the bus”. There is always another ship at the dock.

All you have to do is allow yourself to see it by feeling relief, by feeling a little better every day, by knowing that all is well. Your planet is spinning in perfect proximity to other planets on its own. The cells in your body know what they have to do. The blood continues to flow in your body on its own. You do not tell anyone to keep an eye on your heartbeat when you take a nap lest it stop beating. You trust that it will continue beating. The cells in an embryo know which one will be part of which organ. Food continues to grow on our planet – in other words, it is not being flown in from other planets. There is so much well-being within us and around us, surrounding us all the time and if we focus on it, we will feel it and in time, know it. Feeling the well-being helps in knowing that all is well and that helps in regaining balance and reconnecting to one’s alignment when one door closes. There is always another avenue through which what you want can manifest in your physical reality as you allow it.

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The secret to what you want

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“The greatest gift you can give to any partner – past, present or future is to be so connected with who You-Truly-Are that they are irrelevant to your connection. And when they are irrelevant to your connection, then you are going to have a really good time together.”

– Abraham-Hicks

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Who you truly are is pure positive energy. That is why you love feeling positive emotions. Negative emotions are also part of your guidance but it’s the positive emotions that you love because you are pure positive energy. Anything that you want (a better career, a more loving relationship, moving to another place, more money, better health, bigger house, starting a new venture etc) is because you believe you will feel better in the having of it. It is that positive emotion that you are targeting. And when you can show yourself that you do have the ability to feel good through the power of your focus (not always but predominantly and consistently), no matter what (even when what you want hasn’t manifested in your physical reality) – you feel good (which is the reason you want what you want) and you allow the law of attraction to match you up with more to make it easy for you to feel good even further. The journey to what you want becomes “easy” and what you want manifests in its “full potential”. You start living life as the creator you intended to be – creator of the life experiences that you desire. You reconnect to your power.

In the moments that you are connected to who you truly are, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

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You are powerful beyond measure

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“You’ve always had

the power my dear,

you just had to

learn it for yourself.”

–  The Wizard Of Oz

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Babies are born knowing who they are – love, joy, worthy, free and powerful. They may not be able to articulate it in these words but they know it. You can see it in the sheer joy they take in discovering the world around, the love they have for their bodies, the curiosity they have for the world, the enthusiasm for life in their eyes. Babies are so thrilled and delighted in their beingness. When children are told that they are wrong or what they have done is wrong and therefore, others around them are not happy, have you seen their disapproval at the criticism coming their way? It’s like their entire being says to them that they are good and they just don’t like the criticism and disapproval coming their way.

As they grow up, it takes a lot of convincing for many of them to learn that there are things in them which others do not like, that they need to prove their worthiness by doing some things which then others will decide their worthiness upon, that the world does not revolve around them, that they are not all that special as they think they are and similar non-nurturing thoughts/beliefs….. Not everyone around them judges them but there are many who do as they grow up into children, teenagers and then adults. By the time they reach adulthood or even teenage in many cases, many have lost their connection with who they are, with the essence of who they are.

This is not to blame those around for what they said or did as they were doing their best from their knowledge and understanding. This is also not to justify what they did and/or said but just to understand as understanding is important in order to soothe oneself, in order to feel relief, in order to feel better and feeling better is what each one of us wants. It’s important to soothe ourselves in order to move ahead with love in our hearts.

Why is feeling love so important to us? As written earlier – that is our essence – love, appreciation, joy, free, worthiness and empowered. We love it when we feel love. We love feeling who we truly are. Anything that we want – a more nurturing relationship or more money or better health or a bigger car or a better house or starting a new venture or a promotion at work etc. is all because we believe that we will feel better in the having of it. It is that positive feeling that we are targeting because that is our core, our essence.

Feeling free and powerful does not mean vanity or arrogance. Louise Hay said that vanity or arrogance is always from a place of fear. Being connected with who you are means genuine love and appreciation for this beautiful life and for the magnificent creation of life that you are. From this of place of strength, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

The good news is that we can reconnect, predominantly and consistently, to who we are whenever we want to and feel ready to do so and when we do, we reconnect to our freedom, worthiness and power. It is a sight to behold 🙂

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The desire to feel loved

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“I think the biggest disease the world suffers from in this day and age is the disease of people feeling unloved.”

– Diana, Princess of Wales

 

As I see it, feeling unloved also encompasses the feeling of not being understood, of not being acknowledged and appreciated, the feeling of not being cherished, the feeling of not being accepted for who one is…..There are many people in this world who are feeling unloved and want to feel acknowledged, loved, cherished and appreciated. This post is long as I feel that this topic is of value to so many of us who are asking for what we want and feel ready for what we have been asking for.

Even though it may seem as digressing from the above quote but here, it will be of value to take a moment to see at how Abraham-Hicks look at the word “disease” – a lack of ease. Looking at disease in this way (i.e. as lack of ease) can be soothing and provide clarity, thereby leading to a place where one is feeling hopeful and eventually, empowered. To take this a little further, now even science has proved the mind-body connection, something which healers across the centuries have known.

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Coming back to the above quote –

I believe that we are uplifters and it feel great to uplift others. When others express their love for us, it makes us feel that we have uplifted them with our presence, our being, with who we are. This feels good to us but if we are dependent on other people’s reaction in order to feel good, then when they do not love us (which can happen…even people who love us can’t feel love for us all the time and I understand and respect that….we are all human), we feel negative emotion as we desire their love (we like the feeling in us when they are uplifted because of us and express it with the appreciation and love they feel for us as they are uplifted) and we observe the absence of what we desire (i.e. the absence of their love for us in that moment). Even though negative emotion has value, it is painful.

Expecting love and appreciation from people who don’t love you is like asking for a loan from people who do not have any money. When they start loving themselves, when they are feeling good (even before they met you that day), when they are in a place of happiness and strength mostly, no matter what, they will find it easier to love you and others. You can see that in yourself too. When you are feeling good, you want to express love and appreciation, you want to smile, you want to compliment. When you are feeling negative emotion, expressing love and appreciation is not something which is the first thing on your mind or something that comes readily to you. It’s the same with most of the other people too.

Instead of looking at others to love you, if you could feel good about yourself where you are, if you could be easy with yourself, if you could be gentle with yourself, if you could take out time to nurture and support yourself, if you could focus on thoughts which make it easy for you to feel relief, if you could take out time to do what makes your heart sing, if you could like yourself, if you could love yourself – firstly, you will feel the love you want and secondly, you will allow the law of attraction to match you with more and more people who also love you, with more and more experiences which make it easy for you to see how loved you are. You will reconnect to your freedom….true freedom.

“Give yourself the love you seek and the universe will send people who match it.”

– Abraham-Hicks

When you start loving yourself, either the people in your life, who as of now do not love you the way you want them to will change to be a match to your new and improved vibrations. If they cannot change, (despite you practicing your new and improved vibrations every day throughout the day) which does happen in many cases as some people are too far away from feeling alignment within themselves as of now (and it is okay…we all have our own beautiful, individual journeys and we get to choose, either consciously or unconsciously the pace and the details of our journey), they will leave your experience and others will take their place who are a match to your new and improved vibrations. If they cannot leave and do not change, they will only meet you on days and in moments that they are a match to your vibrations (and there will be such moments however few). Even if you stay in the same house, you will zig-zag out of each others experience and rendezvous only when you are a match (provided you have been practicing your new and improved vibrations and are “stable” there, predominantly and consistently). If you want to have more people in your life who love you, you may like to consider loving yourself first, nurturing yourself, being kind to yourself.

Louise Hay spoke about loving ourselves in a beautiful way. She said that loving ourselves is not vanity or arrogance. That is always fear.  Loving ourselves is really respecting and appreciating this incredible magnificent being that we are.

Some questions can arise here – how does loving ourselves play out, what does it look like, how can we go about it? The suggestion would be that firstly, start with appreciating, predominantly and consistently, the topics which are easy for you to appreciate. Also, distract yourself from topics which make it easy for you to feel negative emotions by focusing on something which is easy for you to feel good about. Distraction has huge power. It may be an effort initially but it does get easier as you go along practicing your good feeling thoughts. It’s like learning a new skill or a new computer program. Initially, it can be an effort but as one goes along, it gets easier. The easier it gets, the easier it gets.

As you do so throughout the day, every day, chances are high that you will reach a place where you are feeling better and stronger, predominantly and consistently and therefore, can with relative ease turn your loving gaze toward yourself and find things easily to love and appreciate within you. You may like to introduce changes in you and your life but changes introduced from a place of love are more easy, effective and powerful than from a place of criticism. The time taken to reach this place of love and strength will differ from person to person (which is absolutely okay…I understand and respect that) as we all have our own unique, individual, beautiful journeys. I would also suggest to be kind and gentle with yourself while on this journey – if ever you find yourself wallowing in negative emotion (you may be right in feeling the negative emotion but you are not happy and happy is what you want to be), that is okay. You are human. As you become aware that you have been thinking negative emotion and want to change those negative feeling thoughts to positive feeling thoughts, you can distract yourself to any topic which is easy for you to feel relief about whenever you feel ready to do so.

Though at this place of love and strength, chances are high that you may feel ready to love yourself but if you still do not feel ready, that is okay. As I wrote earlier, everyone has their own beautiful, unique journey. You can continue feeling good by focusing on topics and in ways which are easy for you to feel good about and whenever you want to and feel ready, you can look at yourself and feel love and appreciation for the divine creation of life that you are.

Why would you want to feel positive emotion whether it be with regard to yourself or with regard to any other topic? You would because that is who you are – you are pure positive energy and even though at times, you may choose to focus in a way which makes you feel negative emotion, you will always feel the call of who you are. When you feel that call and you do not go toward that positive feeling vibrational place, i.e. you do not focus in a way which makes you feel better, you feel negative emotion. Negative emotion is the indicator that you are not aligned with who you truly are. You love feeling love, you love feeling joy, you love feeling empowered, you love feeling free, you love it when you are appreciating. Anything that you want in your life – more money, a more nurturing relationship, better health, a bigger car, a better house, a great career, starting a new venture etc is because you believe that you will feel better in the having of it. It is that feeling that you are targeting because that is who you are – joy, love, appreciation, worthy, free and empowered.

A question can arise here – why do we disconnect to this love for ourselves? Have you seen babies? They love themselves just the way they are. I remember seeing a video of Louise Hay in which she spoke about how babies never criticize their body.  She asks, “have you ever seen a baby say “my hips are too big”? 🙂 ….She further goes on to say – “babies are just thrilled and delighted that they have a body. They rejoice in it. They love themselves. They love their toes. They love everything about themselves.”

As we are growing up, we experience being judged which for the first few times, feels shocking. Have you ever seen children express their disapproval when being criticized? They know in their core (to which they are still connected) that they are pure positive energy and when someone is telling them something else apart from this, they know it just does not feel good. It takes a lot of convincing to separate most of us, as are growing up, from that “knowing”. Some of us manage to hold on to that “knowing” and most of those who hold on to this knowing are called as stubborn by others 🙂 . Who others? Others who are not feeling good mostly because if they were, they would find it easier to love and appreciate. This is not to blame the others around us as we were growing up. They were doing the best they could from their knowledge and understanding. It’s important to understand where they were in order to soothe ourselves if we are ready to be soothed. Understanding them is not to justify what they said and/or did but it helps in soothing ourselves. Soothing yourself is part of loving yourself.

The good news is that now as adults we can feel what we want to feel (even when we are not where we want to be…i.e. there is a gap between our desire and where we are currently). We can feel positive emotion, no matter what. We can do so by the power of our focus. We have much more ability to feel good than what we at times give ourselves credit for. Yes, it does take practice. Baby steps every day throughout the day is all it takes. Feeling good is not like a college degree that once we have it, it’s ours forever. It is a moment to moment choice through the day, every day. Even for people who feel ecstasy on a regular basis, there is more.

When we show ourselves that we can feel what we want to feel (even though we do not yet have what we want….whether it be the feeling love for ourselves or a physical manifestation), we reconnect to our freedom. True Freedom is freedom from negative thoughts. When we reconnect to our freedom and practice our connection/alignment to who we truly are every day throughout the day, firstly, we feel good more often and secondly, we also allow the law of attraction to match us up with all that we want “easily” and “in its full potential.” You start living as the creator you intended to be – creator of the kind of life experiences that you want, predominantly and consistently.

Even if you can feel better (from wherever you are) 55% of the time, you would have managed to allow a substantial change to your vibrations and hence of what comes to you in your life. It could be that from where you are, feeling enthusiasm (on a particular topic or many topics which are important to you) may be too much of an expectation as you may not feel ready for it and that is okay. You are human. Instead of trying to jump so far, you could take baby steps to a little more relief every day and as you do that, you get ready to be ready to be ready for what you want to easily manifest in all it’s glory in your physical reality. As you continue to feel a little more relief every day (in a way in which it is easy for you to feel relief), you start walking toward feeling more and more positive emotions – from relief to more relief to even more relief to ease to hope to optimism to positive expectation to happiness and further on to passion, joy, feeling free, empowered and worthy, predominantly and consistently. This is an awesome place to be living life from.

Feeling good is worth a shot 🙂

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