“Cutting some people out of my life, doesn’t mean I hate them. It simply means, I RESPECT me.”
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“We are really advocates of just getting as happy as you can be — which takes care of everything.
Even if you don’t have reason to be happy — make it up. Fantasize it.
Make a decision that you’re going to be happy one way or another — no matter what.
No matter what, I’m going to be happy! If I have to ignore everybody;
if I have to never watch television again;
if I have to never pick up a newspaper again, I’m going to be happy.
If I never have to see that person’s face again, I’m going to be happy.
If I have to see that person’s face, I’m going to find something to see in that person’s face that makes me happy.
I’m going to be happy.
I’m going to be happy.
I’m going to be happy.”
– Abraham Hicks
(the above words by Abraham have been shared from the blog joypassiondesire)
Off course, the “inner work” is to reach a point wherein no matter what your physical reality is, you feel happy but if you are not able to feel happy while in your current physical reality, then are you supposed to tolerate your negative emotions till you wither away?
No! You can get some distance between that which pains you and you. In that time and space that you get, you can sharpen your focus till the time you are able to focus on any topic (even if it was painful to you earlier) and find something in it to feel better about it (it can be but need not be enthusiastically happy…. just feeling better is awesome too while on your path to feeling good about it) i.e. you achieve stability in your good feeling thoughts. As you do that, you reconnect to your invincibility, to your freedom. The power which creates worlds flows through you. In fact, it is you.
Yes, sometimes, because of the way we are focused on a situation, we cannot feel positive emotion. There is nothing wrong in it. We are human and we need to be easy on ourselves. Negative emotion always tells us that we have grown but have not gone ahead with our growth. Whenever we feel upto it, we can change the way we are focused on it and thereby taste true freedom – i.e. free to feel whatever emotion we want to feel irrespective of what is happening around us. Sometimes, choosing to distance oneself from what is painful helps in reaching this place of strength and therefore, is the path of least resistance (it need not be but sometimes, it is and only you know that by the way you feel about it). From this place of strength, we are of value to ourselves and to anyone else we may want to be of value to.
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“Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn’t you – all of the expectations, all of the beliefs – and becoming who you are.”
– Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D.
Rachel Naomi Remen is one of the pioneers in the mind body connection study. She is also a Clinical Professor of Family and Community Medicine, teaching at the UCSF School of Medicine.
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“You either get bitter or you get better. It’s that simple. You either take what has been dealt to you and allow it to make you a better person, or you allow it to tear you down. The choice does not belong to fate, it belongs to you.”
– Josh Shipp
It’s helpful to know that your choice decides what will further come your way. The law of attraction states “like attracts like” i.e. what you are thinking and hence, feeling attracts more to feel the same. The essence of what you are thinking and feeling attracts more like it. Therefore, if you are predominantly and consistently thinking thoughts which make you feel bitter, you attract more to feel even more bitter (no one is punishing you…it’s just the way the law of attraction operates) and in the same way, if you are thinking thoughts which make you feel better predominantly and consistently, you attract more to feel even more better. The choice is yours. You are the creator of your life and you can choose to feel what you want to feel in any moment.
Sometimes, it may seem difficult to feel better if your physical reality is painful. In those situations, the suggestion is to distract yourself to thinking about something which is easy for you to appreciate. Everyday, you will have moments in which you will feel a little relief from the pain. One can stretch these better feeling moments by firstly being aware of them when they occur and then by distracting oneself to a topic which one finds easy to feel good about in such moments of relief. As one does so through out the day, everyday, one walks towards feeling even more better and then even more better till one is predominantly and consistently feeling good.
The choice is always yours.
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“No beating yourself up. That’s not allowed. Be patient with yourself. It took you years to form the bad habits of thought that you no longer want. It will take a little time to form new and better ones. But I promise you this: Even a slight move in this direction will bring you some peace. The more effort you apply to it, the faster you’ll find your bliss, but you’ll experience rewards immediately.”
― Holly Mosier
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“Some people are truly great manipulators. They can lie, cheat, treat you badly and somehow manage to make it all seem like your fault.
Don’t fall for it, that is just what they do.”
– Higher perspective’s Facebook page
And if you do fall for it, it’s okay. You are human. Be easy on yourself. If you keep falling for it all the time, you may want to ask yourself “how much do I love myself?”
Love yourself so that you find the strength to walk away (temporarily or permanently) from relationships which you do not like in order to feel better. If you feel that you cannot walk away, then loving yourself will help you in redirecting or refocusing your thoughts in such a way which provide relief to you. As you think thoughts which make it easy for you to feel relief predominantly and consistently, you will allow the law of attraction to match you up with people who make you feel even better and those in your lives who are not a match to your new and improved vibration on this topic will either change (to become a match) or leave your life (if they cannot change). If you are ready, you may want to give loving yourself a shot. It’s what Louise Hay calls a “miracle cure”.
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“One of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul.”
– Brigitte Nicole
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Do you have uncooperative children/employees? Great!
“It´s easy to feel responsibility, if you have forgotten that everyone has an inner being, and that everyone has guidance.
In other words, you know what the ultimate sense of responsibility is? “I have to guide you”. Which means: I have to make you hear me. Which means: I have to control you. That´s IMPOSSIBLE! And still, you all dabble in it, until you give up.
The only thing that saves you, is your un-cooperate children, or employees.”
– Abraham Hicks
There is relief in giving up but giving up isn’t easy for most. It’s only when we are absolutely exhausted and tired, that some of us decide to give up. When we give up, all that we want comes easily to us. Isn’t it amazing that when we reach a point wherein whether we get what we want or don’t no longer matters to us, what we want comes to us “easily”?
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“Sometimes walking away has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength. We walk away not because we want others to realize our worth and value, but because we finally realize our own.”
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Affirming ease, hope, gratitude and love for everyone during this holiday season and beyond
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From my heart, for your heart
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Forgiveness, ease and freedom
February 4, 2020
Happy Holidays and a Happy New Year!
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