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From my heart, for your heart

During this tender time that we all are experiencing, I feel that vibrationally, at an energy level, we are so much more aware, aligned and in sync than ever before and therefore, so much more connected to each other than ever before – as a community, as humanity.

Sending love and thoughts of hope, ease, comfort, faith, compassion, strength, resilience and well-being for everyone – the medical fraternity, those working tirelessly to find a solution, those most impacted, those who do not have access to resources, those being kind and compassionate to themselves and to others, to us all.

Affirming well-being for everyone

“Your choices of action may be limited but your choices of thought are not”. – Abraham Hicks


These words have the potential, depending on one’s readiness, to point to what can provide a little relief in the experience that we all are together in… turn us in the direction of hope and positivity. This time has shown us that when the external is not what we want, we still have a choice and that is of how we react to it, of the thoughts we choose and that there is value in practicing this focus within ourselves if we want to feel ease. Yes, it is a practice. The suggestion is to be kind and gentle with yourself when you find yourself feeling far away from the ease, the relief, the hope, the positive place you want to feel. You are human and it’s okay. Whenever you want to and feel ready to, you can again start practicing your focus. You always have the choice.

I acknowledge and am sensitive to the concerns of all those who have shared their thoughts with me over the past few days. This time has shown us so powerfully how precious the gift of life is. It’s also shown us just how interconnected the world is. Sending healing thoughts to those infected, deep appreciation for the medical fraternity and all those working tirelessly to find a solution and helping others, thoughts of ease and strength to everyone esp. the homeless, small businesses and those who live paycheck to paycheck, thankful for those who are being kind and compassionate towards themselves as well as others at this time and affirming ease and well-being for everyone on our planet.

I think at this time more than ever before, we would like to be of value to ourselves as well as to others we love. To be of value, it’s useful to soothe ourselves so that we allow ease within ourselves. From this place of ease (closer to what athletes call being “in the zone” or artists, authors, composers etc call being “in the flow”) and therefore strength, we can be of so much more value.

In addition to adding to our well-being at the level of the body by following the directions and requirements of the government, we can also choose to facilitate our well-being at the level of our mind, our being by reconnecting to our essence, our core, the pure positive energy that we are.

If one believes in them, intentions, prayers, affirmations, meditation can be of great value at this time. They can be a powerful way to feel moments of ease and hence allow more well-being within as well as through our positive energy, to the world.

I know of many who are keeping themselves engaged and positive at home in activities like painting, doing projects in the house, knitting, singing, self-care, some are doing online courses, some who can work from home are continuing to do so, exercising at home etc

Nothing prevails like the human spirit. I believe that we will come out of this stronger than ever before as a community, as humanity. The human spirit is filled with resilience, prayer, renewed hope, compassion, positivity in its love for life.

Sending thoughts of love and compassion and affirming well-being for everyone.

There is always hope

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“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”

– Alexander Graham Bell


There is always another way to allow what you want. As Abraham-Hicks say – “you never miss the bus”. There is always another ship at the dock.

All you have to do is allow yourself to see it by feeling relief, by feeling a little better every day, by knowing that all is well. Your planet is spinning in perfect proximity to other planets on its own. The cells in your body know what they have to do. The blood continues to flow in your body on its own. You do not tell anyone to keep an eye on your heartbeat when you take a nap lest it stop beating. You trust that it will continue beating. The cells in an embryo know which one will be part of which organ. Food continues to grow on our planet – in other words, it is not being flown in from other planets. There is so much well-being within us and around us, surrounding us all the time and if we focus on it, we will feel it and in time, know it. Feeling the well-being helps in knowing that all is well and that helps in regaining balance and reconnecting to one’s alignment when one door closes. There is always another avenue through which what you want can manifest in your physical reality as you allow it.


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The key to allowing the relationship you want


“We attract lovers from our level of energy. Take time to raise your vibration and attract from a higher vibration. If you want to live happily ever after, learn to manage your emotions and make joy the most important experience.

It’s ever so much more satisfying to get into a blissful place and attract a blissful person and live blissfully thereafter than to be in a negative place and attract a negative partner and then try to get happy from that negative place.”

– Abraham Hicks


If the question arises, how can I be happy? The answer lies in these simple and profound words by Joseph Campbell – “follow your bliss.”

When you follow what makes you feel relief, what makes your heart sing, what gives you joy, what makes you put a spring in your step predominantly and consistently – you feel good more often and therefore, are in a position of strength (rather than lack). You enable two things here – firstly, you feel what you want to feel (i.e. feel good) predominantly and consistently (not always but predominantly and consistently) and secondly, as a consequence of your feeling so, you allow the law of attraction to match you more with experiences which make you feel even more good.  From this vibrational place of strength and feeling good, you are of so much more value to yourself and to anyone else you would want to be of value to.

As you practice your good feeling thoughts throughout the day, every day, more people who are a match to your new and improved vibrations come to you. The people in your life who are not a match to your new vibrations either change to become a match to your vibrations or if they can’t change, they leave.

Some people may say that even though I don’t feel good about this person, I don’t want him/her to leave my life. Chances are high that as you change your vibrations, the relationship which you are not happy with will change into what you want but just in case it doesn’t (some people are so far away from their alignment that they can’t raise their vibrations to meet yours…they are not ready, as of now and that is okay…we have our own beautiful individual journeys and what resonates with one person may not necessarily resonate with another) and you still don’t want the person to leave…in this situation, the question which you may want to ask yourself here is how much do you love yourself? This is worth thinking about.

As you continue feeling good, no matter what, chances are high that you will reach a place where if you feel like leaving the relationship, your decision of leaving would not be something which makes you feel discomfort of any kind. Instead of being a “moving away from” feeling, it will be a “moving towards something else or a coming home to” feeling. The action offered may be the same but the vibrational place it comes from (and hence what it feels like) would be different because you started allowing feel good moments, no matter what.

I must add here that suppose you are in a relationship with a person which you feel cannot be done away with like for example, you are divorced and do not have an amicable relationship with your ex-spouse but feel that you need to maintain the relationship because you have kids. If you have been practicing good feeling thoughts consistently and predominantly (either about your ex-spouse or about any other topic which is easy for you to appreciate) when you are “not” with your ex-spouse, he/she will rendezvous with you only in the moments (or on the days) when he/she is a match to your vibrations i.e. when he/she is also feeling good (and therefore, the experience/ interaction will be a good feeling one). The law of attraction will orchestrate that.

It is important to note here that even though you are practicing your new and improved vibrations predominantly and consistently, you may still meet that one person every now and then who makes it tempting for you to choose to have a knee jerk reaction but because you are practicing your new and improved vibrations throughout the day, every day, you will be able to regain your balance (or in other words, your alignment) much more easily than earlier. You will have good shock absorbers while moving through life. Another good news is that as you continue practicing your good feeling thoughts, the negative experiences reduce in their frequency. You can’t eliminate them as they have value but you can reduce them.

You may ask what value do negative experiences have? Negative experiences help inspire within you desires for what you want. Every topic has an unwanted and a wanted – sickness (unwanted) and health (wanted), poverty (unwanted) and prosperity (wanted), rude people (unwanted) and kind people (wanted) etc. Whenever you are in an experience which you do not want, there is a sharp desire which springs forth from within you for the wanted. You need this sharp, strong and clear desire in order to grow and expand beyond what you have been before that desire. Isn’t the desire for wellness heightened in you after a period of sickness as compared to before that sickness? The unwanted helps in sharpening our desires. As you allow your desires (by feeling good, no matter what), you manifest your desire and move/grow into a place better than where you were before that desire was born from within you.

You might ask, why do we have to grow? You do because that is the essence of your being. “More” is the essence of who you are. When you have a lot happening in your life, you may get overwhelmed but after some time of rest, you start getting bored and then you want more. Of course, we can all choose how much more – some want more as in roller coaster rides whereas some may want more as a trip to the beach. We all have the freedom to choose how much of the thrill do we want.

As you focus on the specifics of what you want (i.e. on how good what you want feels) or on topics which may not be connected with what you want but are easy for you to appreciate (and therefore, feel good which is the same feeling that you will feel when you get what you want), you allow the law of attraction to match you up with your desire because vibrationally you are same or in the vicinity. That is how you leverage the power of the universe.

You can try and achieve what you want from a place where you are focused more on what you do not want but it will be an arduous journey and what you achieve will be a minuscule portion of what you could have had you focused on your desire or on the vibration of your desire (i.e. had you lined up energy before offering the action inspired from that place of alignment). Why swim upstream when you can swim downstream and get the full potential of what you want? The former will give you solutions but they were be at best mediocre ones. The master solutions come when you are a vibrational match to your desires – i.e. you are feeling what you will feel once you are living what you desire (even though what you desire has not manifested yet). Thankfully, there are many ways to feel good (the same frequency/vibration/feeling of your desire) – meditation, napping (yes 🙂 ), a walk next to nature, indulging in a hobby, a warm relaxing bath, spending time with a supportive and trustworthy friend etc. You can choose whichever way resonates with you, whichever way gives you relief, whichever way makes you feel good. Any of these can lead to the feeling (on in the vicinity) of what you desire. You believe that once you have what you desire, you will feel better and if you can feel better right now, you allow your desire “easily” into your physical reality and the path to your desire is also a joyous path.  The ideas and impulses which comes to you from this place of feeling good, the action which you feel inspired to offer are from a place of strength rather than from a place of lack. You are leveraging the power of the universe. You are allowing the energy which creates worlds to flow to you and through you and you are flowing it toward all that you want. This is a very powerful place to be in.

A question can arise here – what if you are in a relationship which is verbally or emotionally or physically abusive? My suggestion would be to consider leaving the relationship even if you have not found the strength to think better feeling thoughts while being in the relationship. When in a place where you feel safe and whenever you feel ready, you can choose to think about that relationship in a way which makes you feel relief. This relief is important because firstly, it will make you feel better (which is what you want) and that will help in making peace with what happened (I reiterate – only when you feel that you are ready to make peace) and secondly, as you feel relief, as you feel better, as you make peace, you allow the law of attraction to match you with more to feel better, with more of what that relationship helped inspire within you.

Sometimes, we leave a relationship but do not change our vibrations at any point and we find others who make us feel the same that we felt in that relationship that we left. We can change places and faces but if our vibration is the same (i.e. a negative feeling emotion with regard to a particular topic), we (without intending to) attract more people who make it easy for us to feel the same emotion that we felt in that earlier abusive relationship. So, it’s in our interest to make peace with something which gave us pain but my suggestion is to initiate making peace only when you feel ready to do so. How would you know that you are ready? When you are able to think about that topic which gave you pain in a way which is not that painful any longer.

If you have been focusing on topics which are easy for you to appreciate more often, if you have been creating more feel-good moments predominantly and consistently through ways which make you feel better, which give you relief, which give you joy, chances are high that because of the new and improved vibrational place you are in, you may find the strength to initiate making peace with a specific topic that was painful to you earlier. There is no right or wrong in this. Just go by what feels better to you, what soothes you, what makes you feel relief. It’s your own beautiful individual journey.

It starts with you and your commitment to feeling good. If you have not been feeling good with one or many topics in your life, initially thinking feel-good thoughts can seem like an effort but as you go along, it gets easier. Initially, you may be able to find only a few moments in a day where you are able to focus in a way which makes you feel better. As you go along, you can stretch these moments by focusing on topics which are easy for you to feel good about. Some days, you may find yourself going back to the start i.e. from where you began feeling relief but don’t worry, you never miss the bus. You can start again whenever you feel ready to do so. There is always hope. As times goes and you practice your good feeling thoughts more often throughout the day, every day, you will find it easier to create more feel-good moments. The easier it gets, the easier it gets. The law of attraction is not saying that you feel good all the time. Even if you can feel good 55% of the day, every day, you would have made a substantial difference in your vibration and hence of what comes to you.

You start living as you intended to live – “free” and “joyously” “ever expanding” beyond what you have been before. You reconnect to your worthiness. As I wrote, it all starts with you and your commitment to feeling good.


“Your happiness is the most significant contribution that you could make. In your reaching for happiness, you are opening a vortex which makes you an avenue for the Well-being to flow through you. And anything that is your object of attention under those conditions, benefits by the infusion of your Well-being.”

– Abraham Hicks

Excerpted from: Boston, MA on October 10, 1999

Our Love,

Esther (and Abraham and Jerry)


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You are infinite intelligence in a physical body


“Know that in your deeper mind are Infinite Intelligence and Infinite Power.”

– Joseph Murphy, The Power of Your Subconscious Mind


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You can’t feel the frequency of a problem and a solution simultaneously



“You just can’t look at things that make you unhappy and be happy.

You have to look in the direction of what you want. And the more you do it, the easier it is. And the easier it is, the more you do it. Until before you know it you are offering a vibration where only well- being flows to you.”

– Abraham


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I’am going to be happy – no matter what

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“We are really advocates of just getting as happy as you can be — which takes care of everything.

Even if you don’t have reason to be happy — make it up. Fantasize it.

Make a decision that you’re going to be happy one way or another — no matter what.

No matter what, I’m going to be happy! If I have to ignore everybody;

if I have to never watch television again;

if I have to never pick up a newspaper again, I’m going to be happy.

If I never have to see that person’s face again, I’m going to be happy.

If I have to see that person’s face, I’m going to find something to see in that person’s face that makes me happy.

I’m going to be happy.

I’m going to be happy.

I’m going to be happy.”

– Abraham Hicks

(the above words by Abraham have been shared from the blog joypassiondesire)


Off course, the “inner work” is to reach a point wherein no matter what your physical reality is, you feel happy but if you are not able to feel happy while in your current physical reality, then are you supposed to tolerate your negative emotions till you wither away?

No! You can get some distance between that which pains you and you. In that time and space that you get, you can sharpen your focus till the time you are able to focus on any topic (even if it was painful to you earlier) and find something in it to feel better about it (it can be but need not be enthusiastically happy…. just feeling better is awesome too while on your path to feeling good about it) i.e. you achieve stability in your good feeling thoughts. As you do that, you reconnect to your invincibility, to your freedom. The power which creates worlds flows through you. In fact, it is you.

Yes, sometimes, because of the way we are focused on a situation, we cannot feel positive emotion. There is nothing wrong in it. We are human and we need to be easy on ourselves. Negative emotion always tells us that we have grown but have not gone ahead with our growth. Whenever we feel upto it, we can change the way we are focused on it and thereby taste true freedom – i.e. free to feel whatever emotion we want to feel irrespective of what is happening around us. Sometimes, choosing to distance oneself from what is painful helps in reaching this place of strength and therefore, is the path of least resistance (it need not be but sometimes, it is and only you know that by the way you feel about it). From this place of strength, we are of value to ourselves and to anyone else we may want to be of value to.


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You change for the ease it brings to you

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You allow yourself to feel better “for yourself”….


“The person that needs to do something is not that person. The person that needs to do something is you! Some of those people in your life do not deserve your good thoughts. In other words, “They are bad. They are evil. They are wrong! They are inappropriate. They do not deserve your good thoughts,” and you stubbornly are not going to give them any. They may not deserve your good thoughts. But you do. You deserve your good thoughts about them. This is what the Art of Allowing is. It’s allowing my own Well-being.”

– Abraham

Excerpted from: San Rafael, CA on March 09, 2001, Our Love, Esther (and Abraham and Jerry)


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Focus on your joys

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“Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction. Break the habit. Talk about your joys.”

– Rita Schiano


When people ask how can they do it when all they can think of are their problems which are so in their face, I suggest – go general and focus on all the well-being around us like

  • the sun came up and it’s not on anyone’s to-do list
  • the earth is revolving in its orbit in perfect proximity to other planets
  • food is not being flown in from other planets. In other words, we are able to grow our own food
  • your heart continues to beat and you trust it will. When you take a nap, you do not tell someone to watch you lest your heart stops beating.
  • the blood in your body continues to flow on its own
  • the earth is just hanging in space and continues to do so

In other words, we are surrounded by well-being. Yes, there are painful experiences too but there is well being too and we can choose what we want to focus on. What we focus on brings us more to feel the same so we might want to be picky about what we are focusing on. When we go general and focus on the well being around us, it’s easier to feel good. When feeling better and stronger predominantly and consistently, one may want to go specific and look at the problem one is facing from a solution oriented point of view and not a problem oriented point of view. Due to the place of strength one is looking at the problem from, chances are high that one will be able to focus on the answer and not the question i.e. on the solution and not the problem. The action which one feels inspired to in this situation will now be from a place of strength and not from a place of lack and that difference in the energy is important.


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You are safe


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“You are standing in the corridor of life, and behind you so many doors have closed. Things you no longer do or say or think. Experiences you no longer have. Ahead of you is an unending corridor of doors—each one opening to a new experience. As you move forward, see yourself opening various doors on wonderful experiences that you would like to have. Trust that your inner guide is leading you and guiding you in ways that are best for you, and that your spiritual growth is continuously expanding. No matter which door opens or which door closes, you are always safe. You are eternal. You will go on forever from experience to experience. See yourself opening doors to joy, peace, healing, prosperity, and love. Doors to understanding, compassion, and forgiveness. Doors to freedom. Doors to self-worth and self-esteem. Doors to self-love. It is all here before you. Which door will you open first? Remember, you are safe; it is only change.”

– Louise Hay


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