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You are not everyone’s cup of tea… and that’s OK

“The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, no matter what you try, will simply not like you. But the world is also filled with those who will love you fiercely. The ones who love you: they are your people.

Don’t waste your finite time and heart trying to convince people who aren’t your people that you have value. They will miss it completely. They won’t buy what you are selling. Don’t try to convince them to walk your path with you because you will only waste your time and your emotional good health. You are not for them and they are not for you. You are not their cup of tea and they are not yours.

Politely wave them along and you move away as well. Seek to share your path with those who recognize and appreciate your gifts, who you are.

Be who you are. You are not everyone’s cup of tea and that is OK.”


The law of attraction states “like attracts like” i.e. what you are feeling (and not what you are saying) attracts more to feel the same. So if you have someone in your life that you do not like, are you to be blamed for that person being in your life? There is no blame. It’s just taking responsibility for our contribution to our life experiences. When you do so, you can now do something to change it too. You are no longer a victim. You are empowered.

So, how does one attract someone who is different from what one is. There are many reasons – one reason could be that even though you feel that you are not like the person you dislike, you may actually be quite similar to that person or it could be that you are different but you focus a lot on people that you dislike (in terms of thinking, talking, writing, blogging etc about what they do and why you do not like what they do) and what you focus on, the law of attraction matches you up with more of that. It could be that it’s neither of these two reasons but another reason altogether. It could be that your intention is to be an uplifter and the person who is different from you may actually be the one who is asking (at a deeper, visceral level) to be uplifted and the law of attraction is just matching you up together as you both are asking for each other. It could also be that the people you dislike could land up in your life because of their extremely powerful desire to rendezvous with people like you. They may know consciously or unconsciously that they are not like you but they may like your qualities a lot and would want to be like you. Due to their powerful desire to be like you, they land up in your life. They may have a desire but to truly change themselves, they need to also change their beliefs which they may not know how to do. It could be due to any reason but the more important thing is that once someone you do not like is in your life, how can you make the situation better?

There are many ways to change the situation but I have found that the most effective way is to use the power of distraction to focus on people that you like, on topics that you find easy to appreciate. As you do so predominantly and consistently, whenever you are feeling better and stronger, you may choose to focus on a person you do not like and find the strength (because of your new and improved vibrational place) to appreciate something in them. When you do so every time you think about them, you tune into the side of theirs which you find pleasing. That’s when it is easier for you to be polite to them even if you are just waving them along. Two things happen because of this inner work that you have done and are continuing to do – either they change to be a match to your new vibrations about them or if they cannot change, they leave (as the vibrations no longer match) and others take their place who are a match to your vibrations.

The law of attraction is a universal law just like the law of gravity. We use our knowledge of the law of gravity to make our lives easier. We can do the same with our knowledge of the law of attraction.


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